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OK, I have a problem with some of my fellow fat people. I do hope I don't offend anyone, but I just want to get this off my chest as it is really bothering me.
What set this off is a woman at my work who is about 380-400 lbs who just got WLS. When she told me about it, I wanted to tell her no and don't do it..it's dangerous etc but I figured she had a good reason... maybe health issues whatever... but that is not my BIG (no pun intended) problem with her. My problem is this.. she is a funny, fun personality, easy to get to know person, but she dresses like she just got out of bed. Baggy t-shirt, stretched out stretch pants, big ugly tennis shoes, barely brushed hair... I mean we work in a professional office and I feel it is bigger people who dress this way that give people the sterotype that we are slobs and lazy and don't care about grooming and all that.
I also hate to see my fellow fatties be ther first in line at pot-lucks and shove their way through people and act rude and selfish. I think it further adds to that stereotype.
I know there are these type in all shapes and sizes, but when you are trying to promote self love and fat acceptance, it makes it harder and sometimes I just want to yell at them to act better... to present themselves so people will quit saying and thinking such nasty things! We already have a hard time in society and I feel they make it worse.
I feel guilty for feeling this way about people who have the same bodies as me. Does anyone else feel this way? Am I wrong in wanting them to present themselves in a more elegant and "stylish" manner? Does this make me shallow in a sense?
What set this off is a woman at my work who is about 380-400 lbs who just got WLS. When she told me about it, I wanted to tell her no and don't do it..it's dangerous etc but I figured she had a good reason... maybe health issues whatever... but that is not my BIG (no pun intended) problem with her. My problem is this.. she is a funny, fun personality, easy to get to know person, but she dresses like she just got out of bed. Baggy t-shirt, stretched out stretch pants, big ugly tennis shoes, barely brushed hair... I mean we work in a professional office and I feel it is bigger people who dress this way that give people the sterotype that we are slobs and lazy and don't care about grooming and all that.
I also hate to see my fellow fatties be ther first in line at pot-lucks and shove their way through people and act rude and selfish. I think it further adds to that stereotype.
I know there are these type in all shapes and sizes, but when you are trying to promote self love and fat acceptance, it makes it harder and sometimes I just want to yell at them to act better... to present themselves so people will quit saying and thinking such nasty things! We already have a hard time in society and I feel they make it worse.
I feel guilty for feeling this way about people who have the same bodies as me. Does anyone else feel this way? Am I wrong in wanting them to present themselves in a more elegant and "stylish" manner? Does this make me shallow in a sense?
