The subject line expresses the question. I thought about the other day when a poster in a different thread asked:
I responded by saying that this implied that dating "big girls" was somehow easier than dating skinny girls, and that in my experience, the opposite was true. In my life, I've had a reasonable bit of interest from thin women (who only moderately interested me), but always had trouble dating full-figured girls -- the girls I was really attracted to.
And that makes me wonder -- when people here talk about being nervous about "coming out as "FAs" and such, is that really the issue? Is it really fear of having one's preferences revealed?
Or is it rather the simple fact that approaching girls that one finds extremely attractive is much more difficult than approaching girls whom one finds only moderately attractive?
A guy who approaches a girl he considers a "10" will usually be a lot more nervous and unsure of himself than when he approaches a "6." He may not have the guts to approach the "10" at all; and if he does, his nervousness will increase his chances of failure.
For the guy who likes full-figured beauty, the bigger girl will be the 10 and the thinner girl the 6.
Thus, perhaps the guys who think they are "afraid of coming out as FAs" may simply be afraid of approaching the girls whom they really, really find attractive -- afraid because of the girls' attractiveness, not afraid because of the girls' size.
And it's not social stigma that they really fear, but something that all guys can relate to, whatever their size preference -- fear of rejection.
I responded by saying that this implied that dating "big girls" was somehow easier than dating skinny girls, and that in my experience, the opposite was true. In my life, I've had a reasonable bit of interest from thin women (who only moderately interested me), but always had trouble dating full-figured girls -- the girls I was really attracted to.
And that makes me wonder -- when people here talk about being nervous about "coming out as "FAs" and such, is that really the issue? Is it really fear of having one's preferences revealed?
Or is it rather the simple fact that approaching girls that one finds extremely attractive is much more difficult than approaching girls whom one finds only moderately attractive?
A guy who approaches a girl he considers a "10" will usually be a lot more nervous and unsure of himself than when he approaches a "6." He may not have the guts to approach the "10" at all; and if he does, his nervousness will increase his chances of failure.
For the guy who likes full-figured beauty, the bigger girl will be the 10 and the thinner girl the 6.
Thus, perhaps the guys who think they are "afraid of coming out as FAs" may simply be afraid of approaching the girls whom they really, really find attractive -- afraid because of the girls' attractiveness, not afraid because of the girls' size.
And it's not social stigma that they really fear, but something that all guys can relate to, whatever their size preference -- fear of rejection.
