There is an assumption that BBWs who are in the size acceptance community or just involved in some type of BBW/FA scene are generally more confident and are at least okay with the idea of FAs. However, their sisters outside of the SA community or BBW scene are often seen here as "unenlightened", buried in self-loathing and completely hostile to the idea of FAs.
Unfortunately, this has been my experience so far. Almost all of the BBW friends I do have in person hate their bodies with a passion (some hide it better than others) and simply refuse to believe that anyone can possibly find them attractive. They think that the women on Dimensions are deluded, that the people admiring them are freaks and don't seem to care much about size acceptance at all. They don't even like the idea of joining a place like this or going to a bash because they feel that they have nothing in common with other fat people and don't want to date someone who actually appreciates their size. I have even seen lots of fat women hating on FAs in supposed size acceptance blogs and Facebook groups. Of course it could be because I live in a fat-unfriendly place where people are rather cold to each other but I have had this discussion with BBWs and FAs in other parts of the world and I am not alone.
A number of FAs have mentioned that it is strange how they see so many seemingly confident, body-positive BBWs online but the fat girls they meet in person, or outside of a bash are mostly the opposite - hating their bodies, perpetually dieting and never really understanding that some people genuinely do prefer bigger women.I also remember reading posts about how the term BBW is used to described empowered, confident fat women and the others are just well, fat women.
What do you think of this? What have your experiences with regard to fat women outside of the community been like?
Unfortunately, this has been my experience so far. Almost all of the BBW friends I do have in person hate their bodies with a passion (some hide it better than others) and simply refuse to believe that anyone can possibly find them attractive. They think that the women on Dimensions are deluded, that the people admiring them are freaks and don't seem to care much about size acceptance at all. They don't even like the idea of joining a place like this or going to a bash because they feel that they have nothing in common with other fat people and don't want to date someone who actually appreciates their size. I have even seen lots of fat women hating on FAs in supposed size acceptance blogs and Facebook groups. Of course it could be because I live in a fat-unfriendly place where people are rather cold to each other but I have had this discussion with BBWs and FAs in other parts of the world and I am not alone.
A number of FAs have mentioned that it is strange how they see so many seemingly confident, body-positive BBWs online but the fat girls they meet in person, or outside of a bash are mostly the opposite - hating their bodies, perpetually dieting and never really understanding that some people genuinely do prefer bigger women.I also remember reading posts about how the term BBW is used to described empowered, confident fat women and the others are just well, fat women.
What do you think of this? What have your experiences with regard to fat women outside of the community been like?
