I was originally going to post this in one of those random confessions/whats making you feel annoyed/happy/sad/etc) threads in the lounge, but Im actually thinking this might be a better place for it, as I think most women can relate.
I went to a friend's Superbowl party last night and had a great time (GO PATS!!!!!) A friend showed up and I was so excited to see him, because even though I work in the town he lives in, we still don't see each other too often and the last time we bumped into each other he told me about some ridic shit he was going through with his ex, in regards to their kids and I wanted to know how it was going. It was great to catch up and we chatted and laughed and ate yummy food.
During the night, he had to move his car so some other people could leave. He was outside for a good 20 minutes before we realized that he hadn't also left, like we thought after he didn't come back inside. He was just sitting in his car, in the dark and freezing cold. I went to coax him back inside to sober up a bit. I grab his hand and say Come back inside with me. He stands up, grabs me for a big hug (aww) and says Im an incredibly sweet and caring friend (awwwww I know lol) and then tries to kiss me and tells me some sexual things he wants to do with me. :doh:
me: I've certainly thought about it many times, but you have a girlfriend and I dont want to get in the middle of that.
him: You dont want to be a bad girl?
me: I've had my 'bad girl' time, but now I wanna be a good girl.
him: Thats very respectable. You're amazing.
We went back inside, I got him some water and cake and sat with him on the couch. He cuddled up to me, thanking me for the water and cake and we watched the game.
Honestly, Im having a little trouble understanding all this. He has a serious gf who lives with him, but I know they've been having some problems (possibly due to his slight alcohol problem, but I really dont know). Its also worth mentioning that he's very good friends with and a very close neighbor to my fwb, so every once in a while, I show up for some booty and he's there hanging out with my fwb. He knows what we do, its never awkward. The three of us will hang out for hours, until he remembers the original reason for my being there and he heads back home so me and the fwb can be alone.
So was this just an "I'm having a rough time with my girlfriend, and you are very sweet and wonderful and also here presently" thing? Or was it some sort of drunk-truth? Maybe he thinks Im easy cause Im banging his friend (who is single!).
One more thing he said kinda got to me. We were sitting on the couch and he says to me "Do you want love? You deserve love. He (fwb) can't give you love." I didnt answer him, just kept watching the game.
I adore this guy. From the moment I first met him, I felt an instant solid connection and I love being friends with him. He's a great father, raising 2 well-behaved, smart, talented kids. He's sweet and friendly and always so nice to me, but this experience has made me a little leery of getting closer, even just as friends. If he didn't a girlfriend, it would be a different story, but Im not a home-wrecker!
Any other ladies have similar experiences? My brain feels fuzzy :doh:
I went to a friend's Superbowl party last night and had a great time (GO PATS!!!!!) A friend showed up and I was so excited to see him, because even though I work in the town he lives in, we still don't see each other too often and the last time we bumped into each other he told me about some ridic shit he was going through with his ex, in regards to their kids and I wanted to know how it was going. It was great to catch up and we chatted and laughed and ate yummy food.
During the night, he had to move his car so some other people could leave. He was outside for a good 20 minutes before we realized that he hadn't also left, like we thought after he didn't come back inside. He was just sitting in his car, in the dark and freezing cold. I went to coax him back inside to sober up a bit. I grab his hand and say Come back inside with me. He stands up, grabs me for a big hug (aww) and says Im an incredibly sweet and caring friend (awwwww I know lol) and then tries to kiss me and tells me some sexual things he wants to do with me. :doh:
me: I've certainly thought about it many times, but you have a girlfriend and I dont want to get in the middle of that.
him: You dont want to be a bad girl?
me: I've had my 'bad girl' time, but now I wanna be a good girl.
him: Thats very respectable. You're amazing.
We went back inside, I got him some water and cake and sat with him on the couch. He cuddled up to me, thanking me for the water and cake and we watched the game.
Honestly, Im having a little trouble understanding all this. He has a serious gf who lives with him, but I know they've been having some problems (possibly due to his slight alcohol problem, but I really dont know). Its also worth mentioning that he's very good friends with and a very close neighbor to my fwb, so every once in a while, I show up for some booty and he's there hanging out with my fwb. He knows what we do, its never awkward. The three of us will hang out for hours, until he remembers the original reason for my being there and he heads back home so me and the fwb can be alone.
So was this just an "I'm having a rough time with my girlfriend, and you are very sweet and wonderful and also here presently" thing? Or was it some sort of drunk-truth? Maybe he thinks Im easy cause Im banging his friend (who is single!).
One more thing he said kinda got to me. We were sitting on the couch and he says to me "Do you want love? You deserve love. He (fwb) can't give you love." I didnt answer him, just kept watching the game.
I adore this guy. From the moment I first met him, I felt an instant solid connection and I love being friends with him. He's a great father, raising 2 well-behaved, smart, talented kids. He's sweet and friendly and always so nice to me, but this experience has made me a little leery of getting closer, even just as friends. If he didn't a girlfriend, it would be a different story, but Im not a home-wrecker!
Any other ladies have similar experiences? My brain feels fuzzy :doh:
