ZainTheInsane
Well-Known Member
I met this girl...we met over Spring break, a while ago. I just thought of it because I'm doubting myself about my choices of that time, and the ones following. We'd been talking on and off on the internet...met on one of those dating sites. We exchanged calls, and talked a bit. We met up, and she was gorgeous, absolutely amazing physically...she was everything I wanted. But I just couldn't even muster any interest.
She just had this vibe about her, that she wasn't looking, and that she needed to be left alone. And I felt sorta like I was in the wrong place, and all awkward...but not that typical 'I'm nervous and very attracted to her' awkwardness...it, I really don't know how to describe it...I just felt like I was out of place, and that she really didn't like me at all. And normally I'm relatively good at picking out vibes...the negative from the positive at least.
And she seemed to stay away from me, and we were silent a lot of the time through the museum. Then we went to get something to eat, and we talked about each other's lives, and such. And she and I didn't seem to click at all. If just was devoid of chemistry. I guess after spending half a day together we just didn't mix at all. We didn't even react negatively to each other. It seemed like complete indifference.
I left feeling like I'd been forcing myself the whole time, as if I really didn't want to be there either...which on consideration, I didn't. So, we chatted more sparsely after that, and eventually decided not to communicate at all with each other.
In any case, I was wondering if anyone else has had that same experience...being with someone who physically was amazing, but you just had no attraction to them in any other way? Has anyone met someone who looked and sounded like they'd be amazing, but it turns out that there is no chemistry or romance or anything? How do you know when you're connecting with someone? When do you know, or figure out that you and the person you're with at the time aren't right for each other?
How can someone be, or seem, so right in concept, but once they meet they're completely indifferent, or not right for each other? Is that something that might change over time? Or is it something that typically can be figured out within the first couple hours spent together?
She just had this vibe about her, that she wasn't looking, and that she needed to be left alone. And I felt sorta like I was in the wrong place, and all awkward...but not that typical 'I'm nervous and very attracted to her' awkwardness...it, I really don't know how to describe it...I just felt like I was out of place, and that she really didn't like me at all. And normally I'm relatively good at picking out vibes...the negative from the positive at least.
And she seemed to stay away from me, and we were silent a lot of the time through the museum. Then we went to get something to eat, and we talked about each other's lives, and such. And she and I didn't seem to click at all. If just was devoid of chemistry. I guess after spending half a day together we just didn't mix at all. We didn't even react negatively to each other. It seemed like complete indifference.
I left feeling like I'd been forcing myself the whole time, as if I really didn't want to be there either...which on consideration, I didn't. So, we chatted more sparsely after that, and eventually decided not to communicate at all with each other.
In any case, I was wondering if anyone else has had that same experience...being with someone who physically was amazing, but you just had no attraction to them in any other way? Has anyone met someone who looked and sounded like they'd be amazing, but it turns out that there is no chemistry or romance or anything? How do you know when you're connecting with someone? When do you know, or figure out that you and the person you're with at the time aren't right for each other?
How can someone be, or seem, so right in concept, but once they meet they're completely indifferent, or not right for each other? Is that something that might change over time? Or is it something that typically can be figured out within the first couple hours spent together?
