For those of you who know me, you know that I would not post unless it was something that is near and dear to my heart. I know who this "FallenAngel" is and yes she claims she was Derek's girlfriend. But I can tell you straight, Melissa was Derek's girlfriend.
Jessica, I am sure you are hurting, I know Derek meant a lot to you and your friends in Champaign...but it is time you guys faced the truth.
Melissa and Derek have been dating for 4 years, how do I know. Because I was one of the couples they hung out with. They came to my wedding, they came to my home several times and hung out with me and my husband.
I have a question, lets be honest, I can actually feel for Nate, because he actually sounds like he regrets what happened between him and Derek, but where were the rest of you? I went to the dorm when Melissa went to find him because he was told by his friend "they dont care". And all I have read on your journals is how you call Melissa a "loathesome creature" not willing to realize Derek was an adult and could make his own decisions. You place all the blame on Melissa, and for what? Because she was what he wanted? Because you need someone to blame and she is the most accessible target? Because in a lot of ways it is harder to look closer to home?
I will not forget that night that I went up there because Melissa had found him. How I sat with her, how I cried with her...not 2 feet from where he was because they wouldnt let anyone in the room after she found him. SHE FOUND HIM! no one from Champaign came, just Melissa. And to have to read how you treat someone who came to find him because a threat is a threat and should not be taken lightly....
I cant go past his dorm without crying because he was my friend. And walking around on campus without seeing him is odd and hurts me, because it was such a common occurance. It needs to stop, all this blaming, all this hate. I cant imagine what poor D is thinking right now, looking at all of us and seeing that instead of remembering him as the friend, jokester, nut
he was, we are placing blame and hurting others to appease our own guilt. My only regrets in this whole situation is that I have lost a good friend and that my other friend is being hurt because others are using her as tether ball.
*shakes head* Merry Christmas, people.
Jessica, I am sure you are hurting, I know Derek meant a lot to you and your friends in Champaign...but it is time you guys faced the truth.
Melissa and Derek have been dating for 4 years, how do I know. Because I was one of the couples they hung out with. They came to my wedding, they came to my home several times and hung out with me and my husband.
I have a question, lets be honest, I can actually feel for Nate, because he actually sounds like he regrets what happened between him and Derek, but where were the rest of you? I went to the dorm when Melissa went to find him because he was told by his friend "they dont care". And all I have read on your journals is how you call Melissa a "loathesome creature" not willing to realize Derek was an adult and could make his own decisions. You place all the blame on Melissa, and for what? Because she was what he wanted? Because you need someone to blame and she is the most accessible target? Because in a lot of ways it is harder to look closer to home?
I will not forget that night that I went up there because Melissa had found him. How I sat with her, how I cried with her...not 2 feet from where he was because they wouldnt let anyone in the room after she found him. SHE FOUND HIM! no one from Champaign came, just Melissa. And to have to read how you treat someone who came to find him because a threat is a threat and should not be taken lightly....
I cant go past his dorm without crying because he was my friend. And walking around on campus without seeing him is odd and hurts me, because it was such a common occurance. It needs to stop, all this blaming, all this hate. I cant imagine what poor D is thinking right now, looking at all of us and seeing that instead of remembering him as the friend, jokester, nut
he was, we are placing blame and hurting others to appease our own guilt. My only regrets in this whole situation is that I have lost a good friend and that my other friend is being hurt because others are using her as tether ball. *shakes head* Merry Christmas, people.
