Anyone else notice the gradual decline in attendance in the regular chatroom. That place used to be chock full of regular chatters and a variety of new and old not so regular chatters on any given day. It was a great place to stop in and vent about your life, share recipes, share embarrassing or funny stories or drool over other chatters who were cute and fun to talk to. We could joke about things in there knowing that it was a 'safe' place to joke about certain things pertaining to being fat.
Lately the numbers are pitiful. It leads me to wonder, why the sudden disinterest in that particular room. One thing comes to mind for me. Perhaps it's the way it is now monitored. I don't see anything wrong with having rules to follow in a chatroom. In fact I believe in structure and attempting to weed out inappropriate behavior with setting the rules in writing. However, when said rules change or are suddenly being enforced where as they were not enforced so thoroughly previously I think the chatters should have been warned that this change had taken place either with a message as you enter the chatroom as we've had for sad messages in the past or via email. Instead we have constant occurances of OPs who strike out at the chatters PUBLICLY for not following the rules. When we question the change in the way things are done, we're only chastised further instead of being notified respectfully of the changes.
There is an inconsistency with when and which rules are enforced as well. This is no different than the real world. I don't think it would be appropriate for Officers of the Law to let one person go through a red light and not stop them but another goes through that perhaps they don't like the look of or maybe they're in a bad mood at the moment and they pounce on them. Things need to be consistent in order to be successful in any situation.
Unfortunately the bbw/fa room seemed to work better when it was a more relaxed environment. I used to feel that the OPs were allies and that we were on the same team. That they were there to protect us from trolls and fat discrimination that we face in our daily life far too much already. Lately I feel that we are on opposite teams. It's a shame it has come to this.
I truly hope this new way of dealing with the chatters doesn't become the downfall of the dimensions chatrooms. I would miss the many wonderful friends and people that I have come to know through my daily visits to the site.
Lately the numbers are pitiful. It leads me to wonder, why the sudden disinterest in that particular room. One thing comes to mind for me. Perhaps it's the way it is now monitored. I don't see anything wrong with having rules to follow in a chatroom. In fact I believe in structure and attempting to weed out inappropriate behavior with setting the rules in writing. However, when said rules change or are suddenly being enforced where as they were not enforced so thoroughly previously I think the chatters should have been warned that this change had taken place either with a message as you enter the chatroom as we've had for sad messages in the past or via email. Instead we have constant occurances of OPs who strike out at the chatters PUBLICLY for not following the rules. When we question the change in the way things are done, we're only chastised further instead of being notified respectfully of the changes.
There is an inconsistency with when and which rules are enforced as well. This is no different than the real world. I don't think it would be appropriate for Officers of the Law to let one person go through a red light and not stop them but another goes through that perhaps they don't like the look of or maybe they're in a bad mood at the moment and they pounce on them. Things need to be consistent in order to be successful in any situation.
Unfortunately the bbw/fa room seemed to work better when it was a more relaxed environment. I used to feel that the OPs were allies and that we were on the same team. That they were there to protect us from trolls and fat discrimination that we face in our daily life far too much already. Lately I feel that we are on opposite teams. It's a shame it has come to this.
I truly hope this new way of dealing with the chatters doesn't become the downfall of the dimensions chatrooms. I would miss the many wonderful friends and people that I have come to know through my daily visits to the site.
