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I got home from work early this morning and was promptly greeted by my freshly turned 18 year old daughter in the kitchen that has managed to hide a secret (until she reached for the syrup on the top shelf) of a freshly inked tramp stamp. First, this will forever ruin lower back tattoos for me. It's one thing to see them on a sexy woman, it's all together diffrent to see one on your teenage daughter. Nuff said about that!
I think I'm to blame. I always gave her a lot of freedom. Part of it was guilt because her mother and I divorced and she ended up in a very unhealthy situation due to her mom's new boyfriend being what my daughter called 'creepy'. She moved in to my home at 13. She wanted to wear make up, pierced ears and I let the Dr. put her on birth control pills reasoning with me it would be best for her health. I did what I was supposed to.....boy/girl talk, safe sex talk and I even allowed her to date at 16 provided the boy came in to introduce himself before she left with him. I made sure she had clothes, jewelry and bought her a new car when she turned 16.
Through all of this I only had a couple simple rules. No boys in the house when I'm not home. No drinking and driving, or riding with a driver that had been drinking (no questions asked policy). No bellybutton piercing and no tattoos.
Here is where I'm sorting around for input. She broke a big rule. She is 18 and about to go to college. I know she is an adult, but still in my pocket for the next four years. I can't figure out if I should punish her. How do you punish an 18 year old? It's not like the old days where I grounded her for breaking curfew, or took away her car for a month when she got a speeding ticket. Maybe I'm just coming to terms that she is no longer my baby and she got the tattoo as a declaration of independence.
I guess I feel more hurt then angry. Sorry, just venting.
I think I'm to blame. I always gave her a lot of freedom. Part of it was guilt because her mother and I divorced and she ended up in a very unhealthy situation due to her mom's new boyfriend being what my daughter called 'creepy'. She moved in to my home at 13. She wanted to wear make up, pierced ears and I let the Dr. put her on birth control pills reasoning with me it would be best for her health. I did what I was supposed to.....boy/girl talk, safe sex talk and I even allowed her to date at 16 provided the boy came in to introduce himself before she left with him. I made sure she had clothes, jewelry and bought her a new car when she turned 16.
Through all of this I only had a couple simple rules. No boys in the house when I'm not home. No drinking and driving, or riding with a driver that had been drinking (no questions asked policy). No bellybutton piercing and no tattoos.
Here is where I'm sorting around for input. She broke a big rule. She is 18 and about to go to college. I know she is an adult, but still in my pocket for the next four years. I can't figure out if I should punish her. How do you punish an 18 year old? It's not like the old days where I grounded her for breaking curfew, or took away her car for a month when she got a speeding ticket. Maybe I'm just coming to terms that she is no longer my baby and she got the tattoo as a declaration of independence.
I guess I feel more hurt then angry. Sorry, just venting.
