I wasn't sure how to title this thread, but hopefully that will suffice.
Here's my current situation.
I met an absolutely wonderful guy. He's cute, smart, and very very sweet. In my entire life, I've never met anyone who has treated me with the amazing kindness, consideration, and gentlemanliness that he has. I have never in my life had a man make me feel so liked.
One example: I work at a bar/restaurant. The nearby garage closes at 10:00 during the week so I typically have to steal 5-7 minutes out of my night to sprint across the street and up the garage ramp, get my car and find a parking spot on the street. Now whenever I'm working he will come by and do that for me, just to make my life easier. He opens doors, he pays for everything, and generally exudes a "caretaking" mentality that makes me KNOW that when I'm with him, nothing bad could happen to me.
He tells me at random moments how pretty he thinks I am and I feel it. He tells me he thinks about me all the time and how smitten he is and he does this all without seeming creepy or overbearing.
But.
I don't feel *that kind* of chemistry. I wish I did but I don't. If this makes sense i've never wanted to be in love with somebody so badly but I honestly don't think it will happen. There's no 'all the songs on the radio remind me of you' element. Initially I wanted to write it off due to lack of chemistry, but he's such a good person, I want to give it time. The longer I'm with him, the more I like him and I do find him attractive and I like being with him, but I'm fairly sure I'll never be in love.
Has anyone ever 'given it time' and had that be the right thing to do? I feel like I should, but I also feel like if that spark isn't there, it won't suddenly ignite.
Here's my current situation.
I met an absolutely wonderful guy. He's cute, smart, and very very sweet. In my entire life, I've never met anyone who has treated me with the amazing kindness, consideration, and gentlemanliness that he has. I have never in my life had a man make me feel so liked.
One example: I work at a bar/restaurant. The nearby garage closes at 10:00 during the week so I typically have to steal 5-7 minutes out of my night to sprint across the street and up the garage ramp, get my car and find a parking spot on the street. Now whenever I'm working he will come by and do that for me, just to make my life easier. He opens doors, he pays for everything, and generally exudes a "caretaking" mentality that makes me KNOW that when I'm with him, nothing bad could happen to me.
He tells me at random moments how pretty he thinks I am and I feel it. He tells me he thinks about me all the time and how smitten he is and he does this all without seeming creepy or overbearing.
But.
I don't feel *that kind* of chemistry. I wish I did but I don't. If this makes sense i've never wanted to be in love with somebody so badly but I honestly don't think it will happen. There's no 'all the songs on the radio remind me of you' element. Initially I wanted to write it off due to lack of chemistry, but he's such a good person, I want to give it time. The longer I'm with him, the more I like him and I do find him attractive and I like being with him, but I'm fairly sure I'll never be in love.
Has anyone ever 'given it time' and had that be the right thing to do? I feel like I should, but I also feel like if that spark isn't there, it won't suddenly ignite.
