superodalisque
Well-Known Member
i love going to BBW events! i get to see a lot of people all together in one place that i wouldn't get to ordinarily. i love hanging out with a whole bunch of people who are fatcentric and letting my hair down in that way. it thrilling to see people who have been in one coming out of their shells.
but, sometimes i worry that people can get too dependent on events for socializing. i know accomodations are important and the organizers generally do a great job so that we dont have to worry about that. i have to socialize a lot because of my occupation. and, because i get out a lot and have a lot of practice its not a big deal to me even though i'm an SSBBW. i'm really flexible when it comes to accommodating myself and not being embarrassed about it because i just have a lot of experience.
but the main thing i'd like to talk about (i know i'm beating one of my own old drums) is that a lot of BBWs tend to depend on these events to meet someone. that makes me sad because i know that the majority of guys who are attracted to them will never go to one. and that doesn't necessarily mean that they are in the closet. its just that some guys really don't feel the need to explain what they like to other people. and, they don't feel abnormal because they like what they like. they don't feel that a bbw is a freak of nature. and also they don't fetishize us as much. they don't think a woman's body is all she has to offer. just the kind of guys a lot of BBWs would like to meet or should be meeting. they are guys who would be great for their self esteem.
so when i read well intentioned threads by marvelous women asking FAs to show up at events i wonder if thats going to help matters any. i was thinking maybe we could have some mass fat girl get out and flirt on uncomfortable turf outtings? maybe the mountain/mountains need to go to mohammed?
but, sometimes i worry that people can get too dependent on events for socializing. i know accomodations are important and the organizers generally do a great job so that we dont have to worry about that. i have to socialize a lot because of my occupation. and, because i get out a lot and have a lot of practice its not a big deal to me even though i'm an SSBBW. i'm really flexible when it comes to accommodating myself and not being embarrassed about it because i just have a lot of experience.
but the main thing i'd like to talk about (i know i'm beating one of my own old drums) is that a lot of BBWs tend to depend on these events to meet someone. that makes me sad because i know that the majority of guys who are attracted to them will never go to one. and that doesn't necessarily mean that they are in the closet. its just that some guys really don't feel the need to explain what they like to other people. and, they don't feel abnormal because they like what they like. they don't feel that a bbw is a freak of nature. and also they don't fetishize us as much. they don't think a woman's body is all she has to offer. just the kind of guys a lot of BBWs would like to meet or should be meeting. they are guys who would be great for their self esteem.
so when i read well intentioned threads by marvelous women asking FAs to show up at events i wonder if thats going to help matters any. i was thinking maybe we could have some mass fat girl get out and flirt on uncomfortable turf outtings? maybe the mountain/mountains need to go to mohammed?
