I've been married for over 12 years to my wife. Her weight has gone up and down usually from 190 to 240 lbs. She always tries to diet and does not like the way she looks when she gets too heavy. I have been a closet FA for all my life. I finally told her that I like her big and she got really upset and thinks I am sick. This has caused a lot of strain in our marriage. We have 3 kids and I don't believe in walking out. I know a lot of people who would just say forget it and move on but I just can't.
Are there any FA men like me who have found a way to cope with this? I get obsessed watching what she eats and get mad when I know she is trying to diet. This has caused some OCD in me! I think about her losing weight all the time and get anxiety over it.
Also, when I see other SSBBW's in public I go nuts! This also causes me anxiety because I know I can't approach and ask them out (because I'm married). How do other FA men cope with these feelings?
Are there any FA men like me who have found a way to cope with this? I get obsessed watching what she eats and get mad when I know she is trying to diet. This has caused some OCD in me! I think about her losing weight all the time and get anxiety over it.
Also, when I see other SSBBW's in public I go nuts! This also causes me anxiety because I know I can't approach and ask them out (because I'm married). How do other FA men cope with these feelings?
