I had an experience today that many of you will appreciate. I got my haircut today at a Supercuts, and the young woman who cut it was about 5'6" and 240 lbs. As she was moving around on my hair, she pressed her belly (some front, and sometimes a bit of the underside) against my arms and shoulders with regularity. I didn't quite know what to make of it, because it was a turn-on. Given her size, I could imagine it being a little difficult to be close enough for easier cutting, but it really felt like it was almost second nature for her to press up against her clients, but also somewhat avoidable if she wanted to.
My thoughts were:
"Should I help her out by moving my arms to the inside of the armrests and out of the way, or would that be weird, as if I'm offended? Should I leave my arms where they are on the armrests, tacitly giving her the signal that I'm okay with it?"
"How could I even broach the subject with her, as this amount of touching already seems, to me, somewhat intimate, and discussing her belly could get odd fast, whether she's doing this just as a matter of ease in haircutting, or because she enjoys the contact, or something else?"
"This is really enjoyable, and she doesn't seem to mind that I'm not moving. Keep breathing normally."
"I'm married, and this seems sort of like a micro affair, or as if paying a woman-of-the-night for a belly job, but this is actually just a bonus of getting a haircut."
"I wonder how non-FA or fat-phobic clients respond to this?"
In the end, I did just enjoy the cut, asked for her card, and if she usually works Saturdays, and gave her a 22% tip, not making too much of a deal out of it, except in my own thoughts.
This whole event reminded me back in college, there was a haircutter I used to go to who also pressed against me, but she was more like 350 and 5'9, so it was almost unavoidable, and I was still in the closet to myself and everybody else (yet I do remember I enjoying it then as well, but with less inner monologue).
My thoughts were:
"Should I help her out by moving my arms to the inside of the armrests and out of the way, or would that be weird, as if I'm offended? Should I leave my arms where they are on the armrests, tacitly giving her the signal that I'm okay with it?"
"How could I even broach the subject with her, as this amount of touching already seems, to me, somewhat intimate, and discussing her belly could get odd fast, whether she's doing this just as a matter of ease in haircutting, or because she enjoys the contact, or something else?"
"This is really enjoyable, and she doesn't seem to mind that I'm not moving. Keep breathing normally."
"I'm married, and this seems sort of like a micro affair, or as if paying a woman-of-the-night for a belly job, but this is actually just a bonus of getting a haircut."
"I wonder how non-FA or fat-phobic clients respond to this?"
In the end, I did just enjoy the cut, asked for her card, and if she usually works Saturdays, and gave her a 22% tip, not making too much of a deal out of it, except in my own thoughts.
This whole event reminded me back in college, there was a haircutter I used to go to who also pressed against me, but she was more like 350 and 5'9, so it was almost unavoidable, and I was still in the closet to myself and everybody else (yet I do remember I enjoying it then as well, but with less inner monologue).
