I was reading a thread over in the FA forums
http://www.dimensionsmagazine.com/forums/showthread.php?t=71596
It's about dating and the guy was asking about problems FA's have in approaching Fat women, and while dating them because of their low self-esteem.
How many of the problems we blame on our fat are really just us covering up our fears?
When I finally embraced my fat I had to face the fact that I avoided a lot of social situations and events out of fear, more than shame from being fat.
When men have approached me I had a huge flight response. I felt huge panic like I was in danger. The first time it happened was in 2nd grade I ran from the boy and put my head on my desk. I wasn't fat then, but I was afraid.
Why do we let fear rule us? I love to sing, but I can't sing in front of people my throat closes up and I again have a flight response.
I've always felt my fat kept the world at a distance. If it ignored me than I didn't have to engage it. Accepting myself has been easy compared to trying to erase my fear.
http://www.dimensionsmagazine.com/forums/showthread.php?t=71596
It's about dating and the guy was asking about problems FA's have in approaching Fat women, and while dating them because of their low self-esteem.
How many of the problems we blame on our fat are really just us covering up our fears?
When I finally embraced my fat I had to face the fact that I avoided a lot of social situations and events out of fear, more than shame from being fat.
When men have approached me I had a huge flight response. I felt huge panic like I was in danger. The first time it happened was in 2nd grade I ran from the boy and put my head on my desk. I wasn't fat then, but I was afraid.
Why do we let fear rule us? I love to sing, but I can't sing in front of people my throat closes up and I again have a flight response.
I've always felt my fat kept the world at a distance. If it ignored me than I didn't have to engage it. Accepting myself has been easy compared to trying to erase my fear.
