Ok this will prob be a long one so bear with me.
I have a best friend, whom i have been best friends with for 2 years. in this time we have fought like cat and dog but NEVER fell out more than overnight. i describe him as my brother as he annoys the hell outta me but i love him so much if anyone hurt him i would kill them. i have already fallen out with a few people who have done nothing to hurt me but have hurt him, and so out of loyalty they are outta my life.
the thing is the rest of my friends and my bf all HATE him. they think he is no good for me, especially at this time when im trying to remedicate and cope with my depression. this is for a few reasons.
-he treats my house like a hotel, he sleeps here, doesnt tidy after himself, eats all my food, has showers and baths using at least 4 towels and leaves them on the floor, and even puts his washing in with mine.
-he very very much craves attention. this is a hard one to describe. he has body image issues even though he is very attractive, but he calls himself obese and ugly, fishing for compliments as susie would say. he has a 32 inch waist and calls himself obese next to me, which makes me feel like crap.
-he lies about things a lot, he claims to have made attempts on his own life or cut himself, which we later discover arent true. his mum lost her partner to suicide and he hangs it over her head constantly that he might do it one day which i dont think is fair. i think its selfish. he has seen a doctor who basically agreed he is looking for attention and he doesnt show signs of depression.
-if and when he has a boyfriend, he is fine, the happiest person in the whole world. if he doesnt have a boyfriend, then he will literally jump between me and my cutie to stop us kissing, or even climb into bed with us to hug me.
-he will cry on our nites out and i am always the one to bring him home and calm him down, often he is only crying because he is single.
-he rubs his other friends in my face as if to say "oooh this is my new friend now".
there are a lot of other things. he only ever acts like this round me, my bf and his mum. his uni friends only ever see his fun side and all think hes lovely and amazing. my bf thinks he is selfish and an attention seeker and the rest of my friends want me to slowly cut back on seeing him to look after myself. but i cant.
i view him as my brother, i dont speak to my own family, and i want to love him and look after him even though it drains me. i have tried talking to him but then he just gets huffy and wont speak to me for days. his mum has tried talking to him and he does the same to her.
why do i stay with him?
we have so much in common and clicked immediately. i do crave love in my life after what happened with my family, and want him and his mum around me as my support network, sad i know but true. i can also see the good in him and want him to be ok and happy.
anyways this is a long post, just needed to vent and maybe get some advice from folks
I have a best friend, whom i have been best friends with for 2 years. in this time we have fought like cat and dog but NEVER fell out more than overnight. i describe him as my brother as he annoys the hell outta me but i love him so much if anyone hurt him i would kill them. i have already fallen out with a few people who have done nothing to hurt me but have hurt him, and so out of loyalty they are outta my life.
the thing is the rest of my friends and my bf all HATE him. they think he is no good for me, especially at this time when im trying to remedicate and cope with my depression. this is for a few reasons.
-he treats my house like a hotel, he sleeps here, doesnt tidy after himself, eats all my food, has showers and baths using at least 4 towels and leaves them on the floor, and even puts his washing in with mine.
-he very very much craves attention. this is a hard one to describe. he has body image issues even though he is very attractive, but he calls himself obese and ugly, fishing for compliments as susie would say. he has a 32 inch waist and calls himself obese next to me, which makes me feel like crap.
-he lies about things a lot, he claims to have made attempts on his own life or cut himself, which we later discover arent true. his mum lost her partner to suicide and he hangs it over her head constantly that he might do it one day which i dont think is fair. i think its selfish. he has seen a doctor who basically agreed he is looking for attention and he doesnt show signs of depression.
-if and when he has a boyfriend, he is fine, the happiest person in the whole world. if he doesnt have a boyfriend, then he will literally jump between me and my cutie to stop us kissing, or even climb into bed with us to hug me.
-he will cry on our nites out and i am always the one to bring him home and calm him down, often he is only crying because he is single.
-he rubs his other friends in my face as if to say "oooh this is my new friend now".
there are a lot of other things. he only ever acts like this round me, my bf and his mum. his uni friends only ever see his fun side and all think hes lovely and amazing. my bf thinks he is selfish and an attention seeker and the rest of my friends want me to slowly cut back on seeing him to look after myself. but i cant.
i view him as my brother, i dont speak to my own family, and i want to love him and look after him even though it drains me. i have tried talking to him but then he just gets huffy and wont speak to me for days. his mum has tried talking to him and he does the same to her.
why do i stay with him?
we have so much in common and clicked immediately. i do crave love in my life after what happened with my family, and want him and his mum around me as my support network, sad i know but true. i can also see the good in him and want him to be ok and happy.
anyways this is a long post, just needed to vent and maybe get some advice from folks
