Candy_Coated_Clown
Well-Known Member
As a woman, do you choose or fall into being with female friends based on how they look? Even if it's indirect?
For example do your female friends have to be better looking than you or less attractive, just about the same or it doesn't matter in order for you to feel comfortable being good friends with them?
Does this kind of factor affect your friendships with other women when it comes to discussing your sex/dating life with them, going out to meet people for dating or bringing your partner around them?
How might weight complicate this issue if this is an issue to any degree? (The size of yourself relative to your female friends or vice versa)
I ask this because it's often said that women are competitive with one another and I have observed this element coming into play with friendships between women. Some might not even know they are showing this "catty" side but it can be there due what I've asked about above...and of course there are women who do this with full intention and are aware of what they are doing.
I am sure some of you have either come across or witnessed in other situations a thinner woman being more comfortable around other women who are larger or what she perceives as "less threatening"? or even women not wanting to be friends as much with someone else because they aren't attractive enough...because with women, they can also see being friends with other good-looking women as making them "trophy status". It can go either way depending on one's mindset.
Or it can be general, in that weight doesn't even play a factor and it's all about what another woman has in a relationship (good-looking man others are interested in), in her financial corner, in her career and so forth.
What are your experiences with this and do you see any of this element play out in how you choose or how comfortable you feel with other female friends? Have you seen this in women you've been friends with?
As a man, have you witnessed this with females that you are friends with or know.
Have you used this to your advantage to get women to fight over you or to manipulate them in some way to establish an objective or get out of something?
For example do your female friends have to be better looking than you or less attractive, just about the same or it doesn't matter in order for you to feel comfortable being good friends with them?
Does this kind of factor affect your friendships with other women when it comes to discussing your sex/dating life with them, going out to meet people for dating or bringing your partner around them?
How might weight complicate this issue if this is an issue to any degree? (The size of yourself relative to your female friends or vice versa)
I ask this because it's often said that women are competitive with one another and I have observed this element coming into play with friendships between women. Some might not even know they are showing this "catty" side but it can be there due what I've asked about above...and of course there are women who do this with full intention and are aware of what they are doing.
I am sure some of you have either come across or witnessed in other situations a thinner woman being more comfortable around other women who are larger or what she perceives as "less threatening"? or even women not wanting to be friends as much with someone else because they aren't attractive enough...because with women, they can also see being friends with other good-looking women as making them "trophy status". It can go either way depending on one's mindset.
Or it can be general, in that weight doesn't even play a factor and it's all about what another woman has in a relationship (good-looking man others are interested in), in her financial corner, in her career and so forth.
What are your experiences with this and do you see any of this element play out in how you choose or how comfortable you feel with other female friends? Have you seen this in women you've been friends with?
As a man, have you witnessed this with females that you are friends with or know.
Have you used this to your advantage to get women to fight over you or to manipulate them in some way to establish an objective or get out of something?
