Russell Williams
Well-Known Member
In the past, at times, at a NAAFA dance I have seen a lovely women and told her that she was lovely. Usually the response is some form of "Thank you for the compliment." Occasionally the response is something like, "I hate my body and I want to get thinner."
I know that I will not be able to convice such a woman that she is attractive. The best i can do is convince her that i find her attractive and suggest that her fatness is not a sign that she is a failure as a human being.
I finally worked out the following response.
"Most people who diet will regain the weight. If you do lose weight and regain it do not beat up on yourself because most dieters gain it all back and often some more."
"That said, I happen to find the body you have right now to be very attractive. If you get thinner there will be other people who find your body very attractive. As long as you happen to currently have that lovely very fat body I hope you do not mind if I find it attractive even if you feel that it is a very ugly body"
In such cases usually the woman will agree that she does not mind me considering her to be attractive. My hope is that once a woman can grasp that one man finds her attractive then she can start to realize that many men find her attractive.
Naturally there are some women who are well dressed and have many curves but, after a short conversation in which I find out that they are full of dislike of most of the people about them and full of complaints about the way the convention is organized and run, I quickly learn that there is nothing that I find beautiful about them.
Russell
Yes I know that some women have no interest in being found attractive to men but usually they do not show up at NAAFA dances and wear lovely clothing.
I know that I will not be able to convice such a woman that she is attractive. The best i can do is convince her that i find her attractive and suggest that her fatness is not a sign that she is a failure as a human being.
I finally worked out the following response.
"Most people who diet will regain the weight. If you do lose weight and regain it do not beat up on yourself because most dieters gain it all back and often some more."
"That said, I happen to find the body you have right now to be very attractive. If you get thinner there will be other people who find your body very attractive. As long as you happen to currently have that lovely very fat body I hope you do not mind if I find it attractive even if you feel that it is a very ugly body"
In such cases usually the woman will agree that she does not mind me considering her to be attractive. My hope is that once a woman can grasp that one man finds her attractive then she can start to realize that many men find her attractive.
Naturally there are some women who are well dressed and have many curves but, after a short conversation in which I find out that they are full of dislike of most of the people about them and full of complaints about the way the convention is organized and run, I quickly learn that there is nothing that I find beautiful about them.
Russell
Yes I know that some women have no interest in being found attractive to men but usually they do not show up at NAAFA dances and wear lovely clothing.
