How to tell if a comment is sincere

[MisticalMisty]

TFG touched on something in the thread about the last time you were hit on and I wanted to ask others but didn't want it lost in the other thread.

About a month or so ago I was at the Del Taco drive-thru.. I pulled up to the window and the guy told me my total then said, "Damn girl.. you're hot." I got really uncomfortable instantly.. I managed a smile and mumbled thanks. I assumed he was making fun of me.. he took my money and made kind of a "Mmmhmm.." sound, then gave me my change and turned and got my food. I sat there cringing expecting him to bring a coworker friend around the corner to laugh at me and asked myself why did I choose Del Taco today of all places... he came back to the window with my food then and asked if I had a boyfriend or husband. I told him I had a boyfriend. He asked me if my boyfriend treats me well and I said yes.. then he said, "Good.. you tell him he better. You a hot girl." I smiled and my thank you this time was genuine.. He seemed sincere and I was mad at myself for assuming the worst.

How can you tell if someone is being sincere? I know I struggle with it and I'm sure a lot of fat women struggle. I can never quite tell when a stare is good or bad, or when a smile is out of sincerity or leading to being made fun of. I always assume the worst, because it's the norm..it's what I'm used to happening.

It's really hard anymore to take compliments, especially in chat rooms, as sincere. Are they telling me that because they think I'm pretty, cute, etc or are they using it hoping it will lead to cybersex or something.

Maybe this is why I'm single..I can't read signals from guys..but HELL how am I supposed to know that I'm getting signals.

Please tell me I'm not alone in this and if you've got it figured out..give a girl some tips.

 

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