Falcon
Head Blade user
This is a tough one for me personally and I'd appreciate some input, if you wouldn't mind too much. It's always been a source of confusion.
It concerns this one part of my relationship with my wife. I love her very, very much and she's a beautiful woman. But we're very different physically and not just in the obvious male-female area. I'm 6-2 and 190 while my wife is a foot shorter and probably a hundred pounds heavier. I like to work out and stay in shape; she has little interest in exercise and that's 100% fine with me. For years -- decades, actually -- I've tried to convince her that I LIKE the way she looks, I PREFER the way she looks. The other night before bed she stood in front of our bedroom mirror and grabbed her belly and said, "Ugh! I HATE my stomach!" It wasn't the first time she did that. Well, I happen to like her belly; I think it's pretty doggone sexy.
See, I like to work out, in part, because I want to look good for her. I want her to be proud to be seen with me in public, you know? I'm always proud to be seen with her in public, very much so.
But...
Sometimes I feel like a jerk. I like to stay in shape but it really doesn't matter to me at all that she's not as physically fit. I mean, for instance, she loves chocolate and I love how happy it makes her when I bring her some. But whenever I buy her chocolate there's this very loud conversation that goes on inside my head. One voice tells me I shouldn't bring her stuff like that because it's not "healthy" while the other voice tells me she loves chocolate and it'll make her happy that I thought of her and wanted to so something nice for her while I was at the store. Then the first voice says, "Sure, it's okay for YOU to be in shape, but you don't want YOUR WIFE to be in shape." And that's not the case at all. (For the record, I always tell that first voice to shut up and I get her the chocolate. She's always glad that I do.)
Now, I realize this isn't an earth-shaking matter but like I said, it really confuses me at times and so this is where I'd appreciate your input. No one has ever accused me of UNDER analyzing anything. But ladies, seriously, do you think I'm doing the right thing by going ahead and bringing her the chocolate? I have no feeding fantasy by any means -- I just like to do things that make her happy.
No kidding, I'm being 100% serious here. Ladies, is that what you'd want your man to do? Go ahead and bring you the chocolate as a demonstration of his feelings for you?
It concerns this one part of my relationship with my wife. I love her very, very much and she's a beautiful woman. But we're very different physically and not just in the obvious male-female area. I'm 6-2 and 190 while my wife is a foot shorter and probably a hundred pounds heavier. I like to work out and stay in shape; she has little interest in exercise and that's 100% fine with me. For years -- decades, actually -- I've tried to convince her that I LIKE the way she looks, I PREFER the way she looks. The other night before bed she stood in front of our bedroom mirror and grabbed her belly and said, "Ugh! I HATE my stomach!" It wasn't the first time she did that. Well, I happen to like her belly; I think it's pretty doggone sexy.
See, I like to work out, in part, because I want to look good for her. I want her to be proud to be seen with me in public, you know? I'm always proud to be seen with her in public, very much so.
But...
Sometimes I feel like a jerk. I like to stay in shape but it really doesn't matter to me at all that she's not as physically fit. I mean, for instance, she loves chocolate and I love how happy it makes her when I bring her some. But whenever I buy her chocolate there's this very loud conversation that goes on inside my head. One voice tells me I shouldn't bring her stuff like that because it's not "healthy" while the other voice tells me she loves chocolate and it'll make her happy that I thought of her and wanted to so something nice for her while I was at the store. Then the first voice says, "Sure, it's okay for YOU to be in shape, but you don't want YOUR WIFE to be in shape." And that's not the case at all. (For the record, I always tell that first voice to shut up and I get her the chocolate. She's always glad that I do.)
Now, I realize this isn't an earth-shaking matter but like I said, it really confuses me at times and so this is where I'd appreciate your input. No one has ever accused me of UNDER analyzing anything. But ladies, seriously, do you think I'm doing the right thing by going ahead and bringing her the chocolate? I have no feeding fantasy by any means -- I just like to do things that make her happy.
No kidding, I'm being 100% serious here. Ladies, is that what you'd want your man to do? Go ahead and bring you the chocolate as a demonstration of his feelings for you?
