peterpeterplumpkineater
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Hello ladies,
I have an odd problem. My partner and I moved in together less than a year ago, into a new house that I bought, after dating for the previous four years. That's not the problem.
In the last six months -- after we moved in to the new place -- she's lost an awful lot of weight, and that's what I'm struggling with. I just don't find her as attractive as I used to, and when she wears some tight clothing it's just so evident how she's lost weight everywhere. She says that I don't look at her the same way -- the same lustful way -- and she's probably right. I'm sure I don't.
I know I'm supposed to be happy for her and that when you love someone it's not about what they look like on the outside, but I'm just not as attracted to her as I used to be and I feel trapped after buying the house. Maybe that's what the problem is... that I feel that my options are much more limited than they used to be.
Anyway, does anyone have any ideas about how I can adjust my attitude and recalibrate what I'm attracted to? I feel like an asshole for being less into her but I don't know how to fix this.
I'm asking about this on the Dimensions forum because I honestly can't imagine anywhere else that I could raise this and be taken seriously. And I'm posting in the BBW section, because it's a woman's advice that I'm looking for.
I don't think this is likely to be relevant to your comments, but I've preferred larger women since I started dating in my teens, and I'm more attracted to SSBBWs than BBWs... and my partner knows this.
Thanks. Please help?
I have an odd problem. My partner and I moved in together less than a year ago, into a new house that I bought, after dating for the previous four years. That's not the problem.
In the last six months -- after we moved in to the new place -- she's lost an awful lot of weight, and that's what I'm struggling with. I just don't find her as attractive as I used to, and when she wears some tight clothing it's just so evident how she's lost weight everywhere. She says that I don't look at her the same way -- the same lustful way -- and she's probably right. I'm sure I don't.
I know I'm supposed to be happy for her and that when you love someone it's not about what they look like on the outside, but I'm just not as attracted to her as I used to be and I feel trapped after buying the house. Maybe that's what the problem is... that I feel that my options are much more limited than they used to be.
Anyway, does anyone have any ideas about how I can adjust my attitude and recalibrate what I'm attracted to? I feel like an asshole for being less into her but I don't know how to fix this.
I'm asking about this on the Dimensions forum because I honestly can't imagine anywhere else that I could raise this and be taken seriously. And I'm posting in the BBW section, because it's a woman's advice that I'm looking for.
I don't think this is likely to be relevant to your comments, but I've preferred larger women since I started dating in my teens, and I'm more attracted to SSBBWs than BBWs... and my partner knows this.
Thanks. Please help?
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