On the boards, I have read that so many of us BBW's have boyfriends and husbands, and I think that is so wonderful. Congratulations to all of you! 
But for me, I have not been so lucky as of yet.
I work in a setting where I'm around people all the time, especially a lot of men who come into the restaurant, and a lot of the times, I'm the one who takes their orders, they give the money to, that sort of thing. I always smile, and give people eye-contact while I'm with my customers, which is part of what I'm supposed to do.
Now, when I'm off work and in public, I try to do the same thing...smile, eye-contact, and even a 'hi,' especially with guys (ones who don't have women around them or anything like that), but whenever I do, I hardly ever get smiles back or really anything in return. Men treat me as though I am invisible, and this happens to me a lot, and I don't get it.
Like I said, I smile, and give eye-contact, that kind of thing, but still, I don't get anywhere. Then later when I reflect, I begin to wonder if it's the way I look, my weight (since I am a BBW too), or something. Of course, when I was younger, I didn't like myself much physically, because I was brainwashed into think that in order to get a man's attention, I had to be thin. I don't know how many times that message was drilled into my head, but after finding sites like these, I learned that not every man is like that. I started to feel better about myself, you know accepting my body and weight, or else I would not have the position I have now. But now, it's like guys STILL act as though I'm invisible.
What am I doing wrong?
But for me, I have not been so lucky as of yet.I work in a setting where I'm around people all the time, especially a lot of men who come into the restaurant, and a lot of the times, I'm the one who takes their orders, they give the money to, that sort of thing. I always smile, and give people eye-contact while I'm with my customers, which is part of what I'm supposed to do.
Now, when I'm off work and in public, I try to do the same thing...smile, eye-contact, and even a 'hi,' especially with guys (ones who don't have women around them or anything like that), but whenever I do, I hardly ever get smiles back or really anything in return. Men treat me as though I am invisible, and this happens to me a lot, and I don't get it.
Like I said, I smile, and give eye-contact, that kind of thing, but still, I don't get anywhere. Then later when I reflect, I begin to wonder if it's the way I look, my weight (since I am a BBW too), or something. Of course, when I was younger, I didn't like myself much physically, because I was brainwashed into think that in order to get a man's attention, I had to be thin. I don't know how many times that message was drilled into my head, but after finding sites like these, I learned that not every man is like that. I started to feel better about myself, you know accepting my body and weight, or else I would not have the position I have now. But now, it's like guys STILL act as though I'm invisible.
What am I doing wrong?
