I'm sure that you all have heard all kinds of things from people over time concerning this site and the issues that are discussed and promoted here. I am new so if I am asking questions out of turn or ones that have been asked many times before, please forgive me. I couldn't find any specific threads that addressed my questions, but there is so much to see I am sure I just overlooked them. If my questions are painfully redundant (and I fear they are) perhaps some kind and seasoned soul will just point me in the right direction and I'll skip off to read more! ~grins~
I have been a -big- girl all of my teenage and adult life. I have had a very very difficult time with anything to do with Fat acceptance and in fact, as many people have, I'm sure ... deal with feelings of revulsion and failure constantly. I am a failed WLS patient (I know that's not to be discussed just anywhere) and I only add that here to illustrate my -mindset- so to speak. I guess, long story short ... I don't see a beautiful ANYTHING when I look in the mirror. I see something that makes me cringe. Reading all of the comments and seeing the pictures here has given me a real shock ... I've never considered that I could be beautiful to someone. I have always -over compensated- for my weight by having a very outgoing personality and I have assumed that any man who liked me did so IN SPITE of my weight.
I have never met anyone who was an FA and to be honest, I'm so twisted right now I'm having a hard time believing that FA's are for real. I mean ... it's just so out of my element that I have a hard time even wrapping my head around the concept ... much less be comfortable with it. I don't want to be objectified BECAUSE of my size any more than I want to be discounted because of it ... you know what I mean? Yet here I see women who seem to be truly RESPECTED and empowered not in spite of ... but including their weight. This is hard for me to believe ... I keep thinking ... there's a catch. I keep expecting to uncover a -real- thread that demeans or belittles larger women ... one that supports my own negative thinking that large women don't deserve praise or appreciation for their bodies.
I am sure it's taken others some time as well to -come into- their mindset about fat acceptance ... I guess it will likewise take me time ... if I can get there at all. I can't help it for the moment at least ... the question just keeps marching over and over through my mind ... "Are these people for real?"
bright blessings!
♪midori
I have been a -big- girl all of my teenage and adult life. I have had a very very difficult time with anything to do with Fat acceptance and in fact, as many people have, I'm sure ... deal with feelings of revulsion and failure constantly. I am a failed WLS patient (I know that's not to be discussed just anywhere) and I only add that here to illustrate my -mindset- so to speak. I guess, long story short ... I don't see a beautiful ANYTHING when I look in the mirror. I see something that makes me cringe. Reading all of the comments and seeing the pictures here has given me a real shock ... I've never considered that I could be beautiful to someone. I have always -over compensated- for my weight by having a very outgoing personality and I have assumed that any man who liked me did so IN SPITE of my weight.
I have never met anyone who was an FA and to be honest, I'm so twisted right now I'm having a hard time believing that FA's are for real. I mean ... it's just so out of my element that I have a hard time even wrapping my head around the concept ... much less be comfortable with it. I don't want to be objectified BECAUSE of my size any more than I want to be discounted because of it ... you know what I mean? Yet here I see women who seem to be truly RESPECTED and empowered not in spite of ... but including their weight. This is hard for me to believe ... I keep thinking ... there's a catch. I keep expecting to uncover a -real- thread that demeans or belittles larger women ... one that supports my own negative thinking that large women don't deserve praise or appreciation for their bodies.
I am sure it's taken others some time as well to -come into- their mindset about fat acceptance ... I guess it will likewise take me time ... if I can get there at all. I can't help it for the moment at least ... the question just keeps marching over and over through my mind ... "Are these people for real?"
bright blessings!
♪midori
