wrestlingguy
"Bitter Old Man"
Not here, my job. On the wake of reading about half of the most incredible thread ever posted here in Dimensions, I post about what makes this place so unique. Here's the story..........
I've been with the same company for the past 2 1/2 years. About 7 months ago, my boss confronts me, and asks me about a picture he had e-mailed to him, which he recognized as my wife, Carla. She is wearing a thong, and the caption in the photo says "Does this thong make my ass look big?"
Most everyone has gotten this pic e-mailed to them. It's actually posted on a few sites like EbaumsWorld, and because there's no copyright on her early photos, they can't be forced to be taken down.
So, my boss asks me if it's Carla, and I wouldn't insult his intelligence by telling him it's not (looking at her is like looking at Mt Rushmore, there's just no denying it), so I answer in the affirmative. He asks of course why she's in a thong, and of course I explain that she is a webmodel, which of course he doesn't get because of her size. So I then explain what it means financially to her, which freaks him out even more, as if he doesn't believe me.
So, let's fast forward to this week. I receive a call from a good friend of mine (non-FA), who is also my competitor (for now). The purpose of her call is to ask me a very pointed question, which is, does my wife have a fat girl "porn" website?
So here I am on Monday, telling HER about the same things I discussed with my boss, and then I ask her 2 things. How did she find out enough about this to ask me (thinking she got the same pic e-mailed to her that my boss did), and why is she asking?
She went on to tell me that several of my customers were introduced to my wife's website, not by my boss, but by other salespeople within my own company. I can only assume at this point that my boss has given them all the link to the site, so they can all get a good chuckle. Some of them (my "friends") have even shown Carla's pics to THEIR customers, introducing it by saying "Here's the fat porn star that the South Jersey rep is married to".
One of my true friends, a co-worker that has a territory in the Southeastern US, recently rode with my boss, and called to let me know that my boss flipped his laptop open after dinner one night to show HIM the exact same thing. Being a true friend, he let me know what happened.
I am resigning my position with this company on Friday. I am informing them WHY I'm leaving, with a note to cease & desist. Further comments will bring them legal action. They aren't defaming me with their comments. What they say is true.......Carla is fat, and based on the fact that guys pay her money so they can get off on her pics (even though she's never naked), you have to consider it porn. What is involved here, however, may be harrassment in the workplace, which can also carry serious legal consequences.
I'm hurt, because someone I trusted, who has had dinner with Carla and I, has used both of us as objects of ridicule.......sound familiar? The biggest difference is, he may have to answer to a court of law.
While the issue of fat is an important part of my leaving (obviously, would he do the same thing if Carla was a size 4?), there are other issues involved:
1. What does her weight, and part-time job have to do with me? If Carla was a serial killer, would I be any more responsible for her actions, as if they were mine?
2. What does her weight, and part time job have to do with my position as territory sales manager? Am I any less a salesman because my wife in HIS eyes sinned by being so fat and having a website? I guess maybe we'll let a judge decide that.
I already secured a position with another company in my field. I just wanted to share this with the rest of the community, as this is NOT the lol internet, this is the real world, and that's why people come here, even though it's the net............they look for support from their friends, assuming they have them.
I've always felt like I was on the outer fringe of this community over the past 10 years, as if some here don't trust me, because I can be very callous & nasty at times, so I don't expect much love now from those who perceive me that way. This is said even though I contribute here, and many other forums, and support our community as much as my time allows. This thread is really for those who do in fact know me, as I just wanted to share what's happening in our lives right now. It's not fun, and I hope I can see my way through this. I could use a bit of support myself, for a change.
I've been with the same company for the past 2 1/2 years. About 7 months ago, my boss confronts me, and asks me about a picture he had e-mailed to him, which he recognized as my wife, Carla. She is wearing a thong, and the caption in the photo says "Does this thong make my ass look big?"
Most everyone has gotten this pic e-mailed to them. It's actually posted on a few sites like EbaumsWorld, and because there's no copyright on her early photos, they can't be forced to be taken down.
So, my boss asks me if it's Carla, and I wouldn't insult his intelligence by telling him it's not (looking at her is like looking at Mt Rushmore, there's just no denying it), so I answer in the affirmative. He asks of course why she's in a thong, and of course I explain that she is a webmodel, which of course he doesn't get because of her size. So I then explain what it means financially to her, which freaks him out even more, as if he doesn't believe me.
So, let's fast forward to this week. I receive a call from a good friend of mine (non-FA), who is also my competitor (for now). The purpose of her call is to ask me a very pointed question, which is, does my wife have a fat girl "porn" website?
So here I am on Monday, telling HER about the same things I discussed with my boss, and then I ask her 2 things. How did she find out enough about this to ask me (thinking she got the same pic e-mailed to her that my boss did), and why is she asking?
She went on to tell me that several of my customers were introduced to my wife's website, not by my boss, but by other salespeople within my own company. I can only assume at this point that my boss has given them all the link to the site, so they can all get a good chuckle. Some of them (my "friends") have even shown Carla's pics to THEIR customers, introducing it by saying "Here's the fat porn star that the South Jersey rep is married to".
One of my true friends, a co-worker that has a territory in the Southeastern US, recently rode with my boss, and called to let me know that my boss flipped his laptop open after dinner one night to show HIM the exact same thing. Being a true friend, he let me know what happened.
I am resigning my position with this company on Friday. I am informing them WHY I'm leaving, with a note to cease & desist. Further comments will bring them legal action. They aren't defaming me with their comments. What they say is true.......Carla is fat, and based on the fact that guys pay her money so they can get off on her pics (even though she's never naked), you have to consider it porn. What is involved here, however, may be harrassment in the workplace, which can also carry serious legal consequences.
I'm hurt, because someone I trusted, who has had dinner with Carla and I, has used both of us as objects of ridicule.......sound familiar? The biggest difference is, he may have to answer to a court of law.
While the issue of fat is an important part of my leaving (obviously, would he do the same thing if Carla was a size 4?), there are other issues involved:
1. What does her weight, and part-time job have to do with me? If Carla was a serial killer, would I be any more responsible for her actions, as if they were mine?
2. What does her weight, and part time job have to do with my position as territory sales manager? Am I any less a salesman because my wife in HIS eyes sinned by being so fat and having a website? I guess maybe we'll let a judge decide that.
I already secured a position with another company in my field. I just wanted to share this with the rest of the community, as this is NOT the lol internet, this is the real world, and that's why people come here, even though it's the net............they look for support from their friends, assuming they have them.
I've always felt like I was on the outer fringe of this community over the past 10 years, as if some here don't trust me, because I can be very callous & nasty at times, so I don't expect much love now from those who perceive me that way. This is said even though I contribute here, and many other forums, and support our community as much as my time allows. This thread is really for those who do in fact know me, as I just wanted to share what's happening in our lives right now. It's not fun, and I hope I can see my way through this. I could use a bit of support myself, for a change.
