pickleman357
Christian/Fattism Solider
Wow, I'm so over my head in my life right now, I seriously need some advice from many different people.
Okay, the situation at large.
I just finished 18 straight months of school in Video Game Design and Development. Jobs in this industry are few, and are all over the place.
I'm a sinlge father of a 4 year old boy. Right now we live at home with my parents and they help me take care of him, a lot. I wish they didn't have to anymore because they've helped me even before he was born.
My fiancee lives an hour and 40 minutes down the road right now. We've had a long distance relationship for over 2 years and our love is just getting stronger. We're both sick and tired of the long distance part though so we want to get rid of that ASAP.
The catch if you would, with her is that she had an abusive, alcholic mother who died just under 2 years ago. My fiancee still loved her for her good qualities, but when her mother died, they were on bad terms and she still feels really bad about it, even though she can't do anything about it.
Also, her father is over 70 years old and has been the only real familiy she's known. She's the child of a second marrige so all of her siblings are 20+ years older, so there's a generation gap between them.
So, she doesn't want to leave her dad, or be far away from him. She says she would never fogive herself is something happened to him and she couldn't be there.
Now, she has a job oppertunity making 40k a year with all the benifits, profit sharing, pention, everything. Plus the promise of raises. This job lands right in the middle of where we both live right now, so position wise, its great too.
Now, this is where it gets complicated.
I should get a job in my field, I went to school for it right? I might have to move out of the province to do so. This causes issues though
One, if my fiancee wanted to be with me, she would have to follow me, leaving her father behind. As well as all of her friends. She has thought of leaving me if she had to make a choice.
Two, my son wouldn't be able to come with me right away, and until I found a good stable job that paided a lot, he wouldn't be able to come with me at all. I don't want to be apart from him, I'm the only parent he has really. I know my parents are there, but its not the same.
Three, if I didn't get a job in my field, I could move with my fiancee with her new job, live with her, and bring my son along. But all my education and the debt that I'm in from government loans will be for nothing.
I'm torn. I need suggestions now. Please help.
Okay, the situation at large.
I just finished 18 straight months of school in Video Game Design and Development. Jobs in this industry are few, and are all over the place.
I'm a sinlge father of a 4 year old boy. Right now we live at home with my parents and they help me take care of him, a lot. I wish they didn't have to anymore because they've helped me even before he was born.
My fiancee lives an hour and 40 minutes down the road right now. We've had a long distance relationship for over 2 years and our love is just getting stronger. We're both sick and tired of the long distance part though so we want to get rid of that ASAP.
The catch if you would, with her is that she had an abusive, alcholic mother who died just under 2 years ago. My fiancee still loved her for her good qualities, but when her mother died, they were on bad terms and she still feels really bad about it, even though she can't do anything about it.
Also, her father is over 70 years old and has been the only real familiy she's known. She's the child of a second marrige so all of her siblings are 20+ years older, so there's a generation gap between them.
So, she doesn't want to leave her dad, or be far away from him. She says she would never fogive herself is something happened to him and she couldn't be there.
Now, she has a job oppertunity making 40k a year with all the benifits, profit sharing, pention, everything. Plus the promise of raises. This job lands right in the middle of where we both live right now, so position wise, its great too.
Now, this is where it gets complicated.
I should get a job in my field, I went to school for it right? I might have to move out of the province to do so. This causes issues though
One, if my fiancee wanted to be with me, she would have to follow me, leaving her father behind. As well as all of her friends. She has thought of leaving me if she had to make a choice.
Two, my son wouldn't be able to come with me right away, and until I found a good stable job that paided a lot, he wouldn't be able to come with me at all. I don't want to be apart from him, I'm the only parent he has really. I know my parents are there, but its not the same.
Three, if I didn't get a job in my field, I could move with my fiancee with her new job, live with her, and bring my son along. But all my education and the debt that I'm in from government loans will be for nothing.
I'm torn. I need suggestions now. Please help.
