activistfatgirl
donuts at the finish line
I've been noticing a trend (and this isn't just a Dims thing) of single folks feeling oh-so-sorry for themselves because they are lonely and unpartnered. There's almost this mythology that gets created about how if only I could find that special someone, all my problems will go away.
And once we find that special someone we are OMG SO HAPPY! YAY! Life is grand! And then we break up and life is crap again, and we blame the gender of our exes, we blame our exes, we blame ourselves.
Do you guys think there's anything to the adage that you have to love yourself before you're ready to love another?
I'll give my answer first--YES, YES, YES. I think misery loves company and people who are sad and throwing constant pity-parties aren't attractive. Vibrant, independent, in-love-with-life and strong in their sense of self people are!
This is something I've been working on quite a bit. I have serious moments of AFG-pity-party planning, but mostly I try to recognize how lucky I am to have relatively good health and friends and that I actually...like ME. And I try to remember that I'm quite busy working on myself and learning about who I am, which will make me all the better partner someday.
Does anyone else feel me? Tired of listening to the poor souls? Tired of watching yourself mope about? Let's make 2010 all about us, being better people, and better partners in the meantime.
And once we find that special someone we are OMG SO HAPPY! YAY! Life is grand! And then we break up and life is crap again, and we blame the gender of our exes, we blame our exes, we blame ourselves.
Do you guys think there's anything to the adage that you have to love yourself before you're ready to love another?
I'll give my answer first--YES, YES, YES. I think misery loves company and people who are sad and throwing constant pity-parties aren't attractive. Vibrant, independent, in-love-with-life and strong in their sense of self people are!
This is something I've been working on quite a bit. I have serious moments of AFG-pity-party planning, but mostly I try to recognize how lucky I am to have relatively good health and friends and that I actually...like ME. And I try to remember that I'm quite busy working on myself and learning about who I am, which will make me all the better partner someday.
Does anyone else feel me? Tired of listening to the poor souls? Tired of watching yourself mope about? Let's make 2010 all about us, being better people, and better partners in the meantime.
