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I sincerely apologize for anyone who feels insulted by the thread that I started I didn't mean to be insensitive and I wish I never started this thread because I really care when people feel bad, especially if I am the cause. I am really sorry that I made you feel bad. I think I will go back to where I came from: lurking around.
But before I do, I just want to let you know why I asked that question.
The reason why I am here at Dimensions is to find the confidence for being an openly FA. We all have a history of self-acceptance, be it as an FA or a BBW. Some of us walk this road to full self-acceptance slower or faster than others and we are all at different points of this road. Some may have reached their destination already, and I have nothing but respect for those people. I consider my self to be a bit over half way.
But let's be honnest, even those who reached the destination already, once had a time when they faced the limits of social pressure (and that goes for BBWs as well: the "I never let myself be XXX pounds" feeling).
I am not proud about the fact that I am not what I want to be: a strong FA who withstands the social pressure and who has no real life limits, but at least I am honnest about it.
The reason why I asked the question is that I am genuinly interested in how others deal with this and how they moved up the scale. I didn't expect it to create such a heated discussion because like there are BBWs in all shapes and sizes, I expected that there are FAs who openly love women in all shapes and sizes, so that no one is left out, no matter what end of the scale. I just wanted to know who is where.
Maybe I didn't express myself well enough, but I also want to clarify that I do not have a precise cut-off point, so it is not that if you are a pound over the limit, you don't qualify anymore or that if my wife becomes too big, that I would dump her.
I respect people of all sizes and I want to make clear that I would never date a BBW just for sex and not for daily live.
Maybe I should have realised that this is a sensitive topic, but on the other hand: it is also a fact of life, whether you like it or not and if we would only leave the BBWs and FAs here who are fully confident no matter how big they/ their partners are, then I think it would be very empty here.
Once again, sorry for the pain I have caused. I will ask the moderator to delete the thread and I won't bother you too much anymore.
But before I do, I just want to let you know why I asked that question.
The reason why I am here at Dimensions is to find the confidence for being an openly FA. We all have a history of self-acceptance, be it as an FA or a BBW. Some of us walk this road to full self-acceptance slower or faster than others and we are all at different points of this road. Some may have reached their destination already, and I have nothing but respect for those people. I consider my self to be a bit over half way.
But let's be honnest, even those who reached the destination already, once had a time when they faced the limits of social pressure (and that goes for BBWs as well: the "I never let myself be XXX pounds" feeling).
I am not proud about the fact that I am not what I want to be: a strong FA who withstands the social pressure and who has no real life limits, but at least I am honnest about it.
The reason why I asked the question is that I am genuinly interested in how others deal with this and how they moved up the scale. I didn't expect it to create such a heated discussion because like there are BBWs in all shapes and sizes, I expected that there are FAs who openly love women in all shapes and sizes, so that no one is left out, no matter what end of the scale. I just wanted to know who is where.
Maybe I didn't express myself well enough, but I also want to clarify that I do not have a precise cut-off point, so it is not that if you are a pound over the limit, you don't qualify anymore or that if my wife becomes too big, that I would dump her.
I respect people of all sizes and I want to make clear that I would never date a BBW just for sex and not for daily live.
Maybe I should have realised that this is a sensitive topic, but on the other hand: it is also a fact of life, whether you like it or not and if we would only leave the BBWs and FAs here who are fully confident no matter how big they/ their partners are, then I think it would be very empty here.
Once again, sorry for the pain I have caused. I will ask the moderator to delete the thread and I won't bother you too much anymore.
