My BHM put on a good bit of weight over the holidays and he looks AMAZING. The problem is, he's very down on himself because of his size and even though he gained some of the weight on purpose (for my sake) he doesn't like it when I talk about it. I'm very verbal during sex and it's very difficult for me to keep from saying things like "you're so fat, your belly is so huge," and while I can usually stifle it, last night I let it slip and started in about his big gut and his fat rolls, and he got very sad. It's partly just a matter of self-control and biting my tongue, but does anybody have any suggestions for how to not be so frustrated that I can't tell my big chubby boy how gorgeous he is? (I do always tell him he's beautiful but that can only get so far)