I've done a lot of thinking lately, on "sexy" pictures here at Dims (chat and forums). I've come to the conclusion that I have a double standard.
Society today is inundated with pictures of thin women in bra and panties, in very small bikinis, in all sorts of revealing outfits. I barely notice anymore...the Victoria's Secret girls are everywhere, wearing pretty much nothing, and I don't blink an eye. It has ceased to strike me as sexual, almost.
Here's where the double standard comes in: if I see scantily clad women on the sidebar in Dims chat or in random threads here (I'm NOT talking the paysite board) it shocks me a little, still, and seems very sexual. I don't look down on it, it's a personal choice, and I've shown some flesh myself. It just strikes me, the difference in myself, how mostly naked thin women fade into the background, and how a SS woman in a swimsuit seems overtly sexual.
Perhaps it's the rarity of seeing a big woman in a bikini, or perhaps it's the sheer volume of flesh. Why is a woman in a bikini nothing to notice, but a fat woman in one is really showing her stuff? Why is a woman in a tank top and panties shown on any random movie, but I'd feel kind of weird if I just randomly put one up here of me in that, like I was pandering, or not as...I don't know, as virtuous as I should be? That a thin woman showing her flat belly is just run of the mill, but a fat woman showing hers is sexual?
Is it that the men here are so eager to let us know that we are desirable, that they make more of an issue of it? Is it that, for me, I'm not used to my body engendering a sexual response?
Has anyone else thought about this? Please, please do not slam me...I am in no way saying it's wrong for people to put up whatever pictures they want to, or for men to like it when they do. I'm just wondering if anyone else sees a difference in how they respond, thin vs. fat.
Society today is inundated with pictures of thin women in bra and panties, in very small bikinis, in all sorts of revealing outfits. I barely notice anymore...the Victoria's Secret girls are everywhere, wearing pretty much nothing, and I don't blink an eye. It has ceased to strike me as sexual, almost.
Here's where the double standard comes in: if I see scantily clad women on the sidebar in Dims chat or in random threads here (I'm NOT talking the paysite board) it shocks me a little, still, and seems very sexual. I don't look down on it, it's a personal choice, and I've shown some flesh myself. It just strikes me, the difference in myself, how mostly naked thin women fade into the background, and how a SS woman in a swimsuit seems overtly sexual.
Perhaps it's the rarity of seeing a big woman in a bikini, or perhaps it's the sheer volume of flesh. Why is a woman in a bikini nothing to notice, but a fat woman in one is really showing her stuff? Why is a woman in a tank top and panties shown on any random movie, but I'd feel kind of weird if I just randomly put one up here of me in that, like I was pandering, or not as...I don't know, as virtuous as I should be? That a thin woman showing her flat belly is just run of the mill, but a fat woman showing hers is sexual?
Is it that the men here are so eager to let us know that we are desirable, that they make more of an issue of it? Is it that, for me, I'm not used to my body engendering a sexual response?
Has anyone else thought about this? Please, please do not slam me...I am in no way saying it's wrong for people to put up whatever pictures they want to, or for men to like it when they do. I'm just wondering if anyone else sees a difference in how they respond, thin vs. fat.
