Wagimawr
Well-Known Member
A few paraphrased revelations from my mom and I's discussion of my taste in women tonight:
1) She will never be happy with me dating someone who is morbidly obese.
2) She knows, from having been a psych nurse, that anybody who is fat and says they are happy are lying to themselves.
3) I shouldn't want to be with a morbidly obese partner because I should want to be with someone who won't be in and out of the emergency room in later years, and who will be unable to bear a child, etc...
4) If you abuse your body (she was speaking generally, but I would imagine this would apply to the topic at hand), you do not have self-love and therefore cannot give love either.
5) Apparently there is a psychological profile that morbidly obese women fit.
6) If you are morbidly obese, there is something wrong with you mentally, and something wrong with your body.
I'm not very good at remembering conversations so these are loose paraphrases at best. Finally, when I asked her if she would consider, for a day, the idea that not every obese person suffers from their weight, she told me flat out that she didn't need to consider it; it's just not true.
How exactly do I deal with this, or is just flat-out refusing to discuss the issue the only release from such discussions?
1) She will never be happy with me dating someone who is morbidly obese.
2) She knows, from having been a psych nurse, that anybody who is fat and says they are happy are lying to themselves.
3) I shouldn't want to be with a morbidly obese partner because I should want to be with someone who won't be in and out of the emergency room in later years, and who will be unable to bear a child, etc...
4) If you abuse your body (she was speaking generally, but I would imagine this would apply to the topic at hand), you do not have self-love and therefore cannot give love either.
5) Apparently there is a psychological profile that morbidly obese women fit.
6) If you are morbidly obese, there is something wrong with you mentally, and something wrong with your body.
I'm not very good at remembering conversations so these are loose paraphrases at best. Finally, when I asked her if she would consider, for a day, the idea that not every obese person suffers from their weight, she told me flat out that she didn't need to consider it; it's just not true.
How exactly do I deal with this, or is just flat-out refusing to discuss the issue the only release from such discussions?
