Recently a young lady, apparently a newbie, entered a post in the Weight Board stating that at 53 and 180 pounds, she felt she was getting the worst of both worlds. She feels she is too fat to be considered attractive by mainstream society and culture, but she also said the Dimensions community feels she is too thin to be attractive.
While I dont like labels such as mid-size, large and super-sized, I cant think of a way to express my points without them; I ask the readers indulgence.
The question is: Is Dimensions truly a size acceptance community? There seems to be a bias toward large and supersized ladies ranging from 250 to 400 pounds and beyond. While there are some mid-sized individuals, they seem to be in the minority.
The young lady asked rhetorically if she should gain another 20 pounds in order to be accepted by the Dimensions community (I can hear some shouting Yes! Yes! 20 pounds and more!). Shouldnt we accept her the way she is? This community is intended to be a safe haven for those who are regarded as fat and unattractive by our you cant be too rich or too thin culture. Is the Dimensions community really that restrictive? Cant we admire PBWs (Pudgy Beautiful Women) as well as BBWs? (I know, I know- another label!)
The young lady posted to the Weight Board, which may explain the responses- generally (another term I dont like) that area of the community prefers larger ladies. Perhaps if the young lady had posted to the Main Dimensions Board she would have received a more positive welcome. Unfortunately, my sense is the community has done little to make her feel valued or comforted. I know we are better than that.
While I dont like labels such as mid-size, large and super-sized, I cant think of a way to express my points without them; I ask the readers indulgence.
The question is: Is Dimensions truly a size acceptance community? There seems to be a bias toward large and supersized ladies ranging from 250 to 400 pounds and beyond. While there are some mid-sized individuals, they seem to be in the minority.
The young lady asked rhetorically if she should gain another 20 pounds in order to be accepted by the Dimensions community (I can hear some shouting Yes! Yes! 20 pounds and more!). Shouldnt we accept her the way she is? This community is intended to be a safe haven for those who are regarded as fat and unattractive by our you cant be too rich or too thin culture. Is the Dimensions community really that restrictive? Cant we admire PBWs (Pudgy Beautiful Women) as well as BBWs? (I know, I know- another label!)
The young lady posted to the Weight Board, which may explain the responses- generally (another term I dont like) that area of the community prefers larger ladies. Perhaps if the young lady had posted to the Main Dimensions Board she would have received a more positive welcome. Unfortunately, my sense is the community has done little to make her feel valued or comforted. I know we are better than that.
