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Ladyrose1952
[FONT=Times New Roman, Times, Serif]No Support System[/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman, Times, Serif] I have been big all of my life. There were several years when I felt that I was perhaps the most unappealing woman. I just reemtly came out of that shell to create this group, it has inspired me to feel better about myself as I hope it does you to.[/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman, Times, Serif] I would like to tell you my story.[/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman, Times, Serif] When I was 37 years old, I had a divorce. After that I was never the same. I turned chubby almost over night, and even though I thought I was extremely overweight at the time, I was not. It was all about my inability to control my plummeting self esteem. What no one ever understood, was that my weight gain was not my fault.[/FONT]
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[FONT=Times New Roman, Times, Serif] It wasn't all bad. I became the caretaker and bread winner of the family over night, but nothing could repair the damage that was being done to my self-esteem. I was the fat Mom, not the conventional one. Looking back on pictures, now, I really wasn't that big, it was all the way people were making me feel.[/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman, Times, Serif] I grew a little more every year. Most of the first eight years of my being alone, I was told many times that held my weight pretty well, and I had a pretty face, but things just never were the same. People look down on you for being overweight, even if it is not your fault. They think you're lazy or eat a lot, but the truth is, I have friends who are less than 150 pounds, and 5'6", and they eat way more than I do. [/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman, Times, Serif] Somehow I have managed to make it through 20 years alone, but it has been a tough battle laced with thoughts of insecurity and anger. I have had one serious boyfriend, but the only thing I got from that that was good out of the relationship was my youngest daughter that will be fourteen years old next month. I have overcome so much, with no support system. I have had to raise my four children alone the entire time and it was never easy.[/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman, Times, Serif] I used to walk into a friend's house everyday and she'd tell me how fat I was. That wasn't good. It did have a damaging effect, like many more things in my life, but somehow I have made it through. First of all, I realized that she really wasn't a friend.[/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman, Times, Serif] Being a plus-size woman makes you afraid to try many things. I failed at many things because I wouldn't try out for them in front of everyone, because I thought they would make fun of my fat body. That shouldn't be the way it is. People should respect all people, no matter what size, age, sex, religion, or race. [/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman, Times, Serif] My point is, there is too much hate in the world, and I have overcome so much of it. I see people doing this to people and I get mad, but I don't know what to do. They don't understand that sometimes it's not that person's fault, and they could be damaging them for life. [/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman, Times, Serif] I am not completely through my journey. I still have issues, anger, and I am a very dominant personality, but I am hoping things will improve as they have been. I will let you know, I am not out of the woods, either. I have even hated people for no other reason then that I have been hurt and was bitter about it. I no longer want to do that, because I realize I am a very talented person, and a reasonably good artist, but that doesn't change how I felt for many years. [/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman, Times, Serif] I am sorry to make this so long, but it really bothers me that people are so uneducated and biased, and it's all because they are uneducated about other people and their feelings. They look for the perfect women, and not women like me that are out in this world that are real and not so thin. And other women look for the thinner Men most of the time. It just isn't fair. Life isn't fair. I think we all have to sit back and realize just what is more important and focus on those things so that we don't loose track of them.[/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman, Times, Serif] What are your ideas on this? Please post your reply and tell us what you think!?[/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman, Times, Serif] I would like to tell you my story.[/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman, Times, Serif] When I was 37 years old, I had a divorce. After that I was never the same. I turned chubby almost over night, and even though I thought I was extremely overweight at the time, I was not. It was all about my inability to control my plummeting self esteem. What no one ever understood, was that my weight gain was not my fault.[/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman, Times, Serif] [/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman, Times, Serif] It wasn't all bad. I became the caretaker and bread winner of the family over night, but nothing could repair the damage that was being done to my self-esteem. I was the fat Mom, not the conventional one. Looking back on pictures, now, I really wasn't that big, it was all the way people were making me feel.[/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman, Times, Serif] I grew a little more every year. Most of the first eight years of my being alone, I was told many times that held my weight pretty well, and I had a pretty face, but things just never were the same. People look down on you for being overweight, even if it is not your fault. They think you're lazy or eat a lot, but the truth is, I have friends who are less than 150 pounds, and 5'6", and they eat way more than I do. [/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman, Times, Serif] Somehow I have managed to make it through 20 years alone, but it has been a tough battle laced with thoughts of insecurity and anger. I have had one serious boyfriend, but the only thing I got from that that was good out of the relationship was my youngest daughter that will be fourteen years old next month. I have overcome so much, with no support system. I have had to raise my four children alone the entire time and it was never easy.[/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman, Times, Serif] I used to walk into a friend's house everyday and she'd tell me how fat I was. That wasn't good. It did have a damaging effect, like many more things in my life, but somehow I have made it through. First of all, I realized that she really wasn't a friend.[/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman, Times, Serif] Being a plus-size woman makes you afraid to try many things. I failed at many things because I wouldn't try out for them in front of everyone, because I thought they would make fun of my fat body. That shouldn't be the way it is. People should respect all people, no matter what size, age, sex, religion, or race. [/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman, Times, Serif] My point is, there is too much hate in the world, and I have overcome so much of it. I see people doing this to people and I get mad, but I don't know what to do. They don't understand that sometimes it's not that person's fault, and they could be damaging them for life. [/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman, Times, Serif] I am not completely through my journey. I still have issues, anger, and I am a very dominant personality, but I am hoping things will improve as they have been. I will let you know, I am not out of the woods, either. I have even hated people for no other reason then that I have been hurt and was bitter about it. I no longer want to do that, because I realize I am a very talented person, and a reasonably good artist, but that doesn't change how I felt for many years. [/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman, Times, Serif] I am sorry to make this so long, but it really bothers me that people are so uneducated and biased, and it's all because they are uneducated about other people and their feelings. They look for the perfect women, and not women like me that are out in this world that are real and not so thin. And other women look for the thinner Men most of the time. It just isn't fair. Life isn't fair. I think we all have to sit back and realize just what is more important and focus on those things so that we don't loose track of them.[/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman, Times, Serif] What are your ideas on this? Please post your reply and tell us what you think!?[/FONT]
