BLUEeyedBanshee
Ministry of Truth
Alright, I have talked to others privately about this, but I'm going to put it out here publicly now.
This is not a constant thing but when it happens I end up feeling at least a little bad, and maybe some here have had experiences with a similar situation.
I am completely and have been completely out about loving big guys with my bf for forever. He knows that I'm attracted to his body. He also knows that I'm completely in love with him as a whole person. However, there are still body issues that become involved.
He doesn't see himself as attractive at his size. Even though he knows I love his body and can't keep my hands off of him at times.
Anyway, I'm there for him and willing to help him lose if that's what'll make him feel better about his appearance. I really hate that he feels uncomfortable, and I want him to be as comfortable and happy with himself as I am with him.
No matter what size his body ends up (through whatever means he uses to change it) it is the house of the mind and soul that I love. That will not change.
One of the things that has come up in conversation is that if he did lose a lot of weight how he might feel about me looking at pictures of bigger guys. I compared it to if he were looking at playboy mags or pictures of women online or wherever. (esp. those that don't look like me) In my mind pictures are pictures. Finding others attractive isn't a detriment. Finding others attractive and moving toward something (if possible) regarding that attraction is a detriment. Also, cheating is not something I would ever do. I don't find looking at photos either within a magazine or online to be cheating. He agrees and he doesn't view it as such either.
I do what I can to help him. I do what I can to let him know I find him completely hot. At times I even shy away from referring to the physical attraction and focus on aspects of his personality etc. In order to show him it's the complete package that I love and desire.
I guess what I'm looking for here is, how do I get around the guilt? Yes there I said it. Guilt. I feel guilt because I admire his body, the body he's currently not liking.
This is not a constant thing but when it happens I end up feeling at least a little bad, and maybe some here have had experiences with a similar situation.
I am completely and have been completely out about loving big guys with my bf for forever. He knows that I'm attracted to his body. He also knows that I'm completely in love with him as a whole person. However, there are still body issues that become involved.
He doesn't see himself as attractive at his size. Even though he knows I love his body and can't keep my hands off of him at times.
Anyway, I'm there for him and willing to help him lose if that's what'll make him feel better about his appearance. I really hate that he feels uncomfortable, and I want him to be as comfortable and happy with himself as I am with him.
No matter what size his body ends up (through whatever means he uses to change it) it is the house of the mind and soul that I love. That will not change.
One of the things that has come up in conversation is that if he did lose a lot of weight how he might feel about me looking at pictures of bigger guys. I compared it to if he were looking at playboy mags or pictures of women online or wherever. (esp. those that don't look like me) In my mind pictures are pictures. Finding others attractive isn't a detriment. Finding others attractive and moving toward something (if possible) regarding that attraction is a detriment. Also, cheating is not something I would ever do. I don't find looking at photos either within a magazine or online to be cheating. He agrees and he doesn't view it as such either.
I do what I can to help him. I do what I can to let him know I find him completely hot. At times I even shy away from referring to the physical attraction and focus on aspects of his personality etc. In order to show him it's the complete package that I love and desire.
I guess what I'm looking for here is, how do I get around the guilt? Yes there I said it. Guilt. I feel guilt because I admire his body, the body he's currently not liking.
