Blondeegrldd
Well-Known Member
I chose this title from a book I read recently - Don't laugh! - Teri Hatcher's Burnt Toast.
The chapter is about the divorce she went through a few years back, and I love the illustration in the book. There's a drawing of a woman [Teri] lying on her kitchen floor, surrounded by the stove, sink, oven, etc, and an outline of NYC in the background. A broken heart appears to be lifting out of her chest.
Three weeks ago I posted this thread. I am sad to say I wish I could reach in and pull that post off this board forever.
We got married thinking it would be happily ever after, but instead it was a rude awakening. Everyone who said we moved too fast... they were half right. However, our story is way more complicated than "two young people being impulsive."
I feel like I have to come clean here because I have recieved so many "Congrats" from my original post. I'd feel like a fraud if I didn't admit my mistake.
Basically, our relationship was stormy from day one, back in August '06. Being a naive young woman, I believed getting married and loving each other would fix everything.
I filed for divorce on Monday. My husband and I uprooted our lives in Ft. Lauderdale to start over in Leesburg, only for me to turn around and move back.
Here are the positives...
1) Good to find out it was a mistake only 3 weeks in
2) We do not own anything aside from our cars
3) We do not have kids
What I've realized...
1) While I love him, I married him for the wrong reason. I expected him to fill a void in my life. I wasn't happy before him, so he ultimately could not make me happy. Same situation with him.
2) People don't change. Period. Me, you, Johnny, Sally, Timmy - none of us have the supernatural ability to change someone.
3) My situation cannot be fixed. Too much damage has been done. Without disclosing too much but possibly throwing my husband under the bus (figuratively), he has broken my heart for the upteenth time since we met. The 2nd since we married.
I am not perfect, and by no means do I want to parade myself as the victim. However, the facts stand that the level he has hurt me is no where close to the grievances he may have towards me. It's sad.
4) I am going to disappear from the board for a while. I will close this name down and come back under a new name in a few weeks or months. Start fresh.
All I wanted was a fresh start with my husband, but now I am left with a sour taste in my mouth.
And about the title, "Place On Rack & Let Cool"...
I see myself right now as a sheet cake that has just come out of the oven. If I am not patient and wait for it to cool completely, if I prematurely frost it, the frosting will melt into the cake and drip off the sides.
I need to be placed on a rack right now, and I need to give myself some time to cool off. I don't want messed up icing.
If ANYONE can benefit from my story, I'll be happy.
The chapter is about the divorce she went through a few years back, and I love the illustration in the book. There's a drawing of a woman [Teri] lying on her kitchen floor, surrounded by the stove, sink, oven, etc, and an outline of NYC in the background. A broken heart appears to be lifting out of her chest.
Three weeks ago I posted this thread. I am sad to say I wish I could reach in and pull that post off this board forever.
We got married thinking it would be happily ever after, but instead it was a rude awakening. Everyone who said we moved too fast... they were half right. However, our story is way more complicated than "two young people being impulsive."
I feel like I have to come clean here because I have recieved so many "Congrats" from my original post. I'd feel like a fraud if I didn't admit my mistake.
Basically, our relationship was stormy from day one, back in August '06. Being a naive young woman, I believed getting married and loving each other would fix everything.
I filed for divorce on Monday. My husband and I uprooted our lives in Ft. Lauderdale to start over in Leesburg, only for me to turn around and move back.
Here are the positives...
1) Good to find out it was a mistake only 3 weeks in
2) We do not own anything aside from our cars
3) We do not have kids
What I've realized...
1) While I love him, I married him for the wrong reason. I expected him to fill a void in my life. I wasn't happy before him, so he ultimately could not make me happy. Same situation with him.
2) People don't change. Period. Me, you, Johnny, Sally, Timmy - none of us have the supernatural ability to change someone.
3) My situation cannot be fixed. Too much damage has been done. Without disclosing too much but possibly throwing my husband under the bus (figuratively), he has broken my heart for the upteenth time since we met. The 2nd since we married.
I am not perfect, and by no means do I want to parade myself as the victim. However, the facts stand that the level he has hurt me is no where close to the grievances he may have towards me. It's sad.
4) I am going to disappear from the board for a while. I will close this name down and come back under a new name in a few weeks or months. Start fresh.
All I wanted was a fresh start with my husband, but now I am left with a sour taste in my mouth.
And about the title, "Place On Rack & Let Cool"...
I see myself right now as a sheet cake that has just come out of the oven. If I am not patient and wait for it to cool completely, if I prematurely frost it, the frosting will melt into the cake and drip off the sides.
I need to be placed on a rack right now, and I need to give myself some time to cool off. I don't want messed up icing.
If ANYONE can benefit from my story, I'll be happy.