Hi, so i've been dating a bigger man for about three months now. I am also fat and he is bigger than me. I have never dated a larger man before but I love that he's big and I feel one hundred percent comfortable with him which is not something i can say about most men. Here is my problem; whenever we are together and he is naked, he has to turn off the lights and then talks about how fat he is. he'll talk about how he didn't used to be fat and show me pictures. he'll talk about how he's ugly. i don't agree with any of this. i think he's very attractive and we have the best sex i have ever had in my entire life. he always tells me that i'm beautiful and sexy and stuff like that...but when he starts his fat bashing it really makes me feel self conscious. i have told him how i feel and that i love him and think he looks great. he doesn't even respond to the compliment on his looks. i really don't know what to do. sometimes when we are having sex, he remarks on how big i am...but the he acts like he didn't say anything at all. the other night we were hanging out and he tried to pick me up and couldn't...i was very embarrassed and he looked at me in wonder and said "I can't even pick you up!" i wanted to die. the thing is, i know he is attracted to me and i know he loves me(he has told me both)i just really want him to accept himself. i love who he is and i love who i am and i want us to be happy. has anyone dealt with this before? can anyone give me any tips? also as a side note, i was wondering if anyone has any sex positions for couples who both have big bellies? we need more ideas 
