tinycat1986
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I recently "kind of" started seeing this guy who I met through friends.
he's 5'4, and weighs 500 pounds, roughly. He was recently a little more, and may be a little less, now. It's affected his mobility on a mild, but noticeable level. He has a lot of trouble breathing, and gets a lot of staring. I'm pretty positive he's never been with a girl before, or been with someone he can share weight related issues with. We're both in our early 20's.
I read this board a lot, and although a lot of it's been really helpful, I feel like it doesn't address what he must be going through, since his HWP proportion seems different than most people on here.
He's had a really difficult background, with a lot of severe family abuse and moving around. I know he's really, really embarassed about his size (being out in public, talking about it, finding clothes), but I don't want him to be around me.
I'm wondering if anyone's been in a situation like this. I want to learn more about the kinds of things he's going through but don't know how- since this is mostly a fat-postive/preference forum. I read all the threads about making guys feel wanted, attractive, and comfortable but he's reacted to everything I've tried so severely that it all makes sense in my head, but feel like I might need to approach things differently/more carefully. We're not in a situation where we can get much, if any, private time. Movie theaters are sometimes the best we can get, but I feel bad because he can't fit into the seats at all. I know he likes me, and wants to be with someone, but whenever I get close to him, he moves away, almost like he worries about encroaching on my space. And I worry about where I put my hands, that it might upset him somehow. (i'm not a hugehand of handholding, either.)
so what do you all think?
he's 5'4, and weighs 500 pounds, roughly. He was recently a little more, and may be a little less, now. It's affected his mobility on a mild, but noticeable level. He has a lot of trouble breathing, and gets a lot of staring. I'm pretty positive he's never been with a girl before, or been with someone he can share weight related issues with. We're both in our early 20's.
I read this board a lot, and although a lot of it's been really helpful, I feel like it doesn't address what he must be going through, since his HWP proportion seems different than most people on here.
He's had a really difficult background, with a lot of severe family abuse and moving around. I know he's really, really embarassed about his size (being out in public, talking about it, finding clothes), but I don't want him to be around me.
I'm wondering if anyone's been in a situation like this. I want to learn more about the kinds of things he's going through but don't know how- since this is mostly a fat-postive/preference forum. I read all the threads about making guys feel wanted, attractive, and comfortable but he's reacted to everything I've tried so severely that it all makes sense in my head, but feel like I might need to approach things differently/more carefully. We're not in a situation where we can get much, if any, private time. Movie theaters are sometimes the best we can get, but I feel bad because he can't fit into the seats at all. I know he likes me, and wants to be with someone, but whenever I get close to him, he moves away, almost like he worries about encroaching on my space. And I worry about where I put my hands, that it might upset him somehow. (i'm not a hugehand of handholding, either.)
so what do you all think?
