superodalisque
Well-Known Member
we're fat so it's evident we aren't really depriving ourselves of food but do we deprive ourselves of other things? most women seem to. i think it's easy to fall into the habit of being totally self sufficient. true it is an achievement but do we over do it sometimes. know i tend to. a friend of mine posted this great article and i think it is worth clicking on. i think a lot of us can probably relate to it to at least some extent. do you give yourself as much as you think you should?
9 Ways You May Unwittingly Deprive Yourself of Love and Fulfillment
By Mike Bundrant
excerpt:
http://tinybuddha.com/blog/9-ways-you-unwittingly-deprive-yourself-of-love-and-fulfillment/
1. You don’t express your needs.
Refusing to express your needs virtually guarantees deprivation. Millions of people allow others to ignore, take advantage, and take them for granted because they will not speak up.
2. You are overly focused on the needs of others.
Focusing solely on the needs of others at the expense of your own is actually a disservice to yourself and others. It typically leads to resentment and emotional martyrdom.
3. You feel guilty when you do something for yourself.
Guilt or “selfish” feelings when you meet your own needs is a sign that you don’t believe you deserve to have them met, as if it were wrong.
4. You can’t take compliments.
Not accepting compliments graciously (inside and out) is a way to deflect them, depriving yourself of the need to be appreciated.
5. You are attracted to emotionally unavailable or self-centered people.
A sure way to not to get your needs met is to attract emotionally unavailable or narcissistic people into your life. When you commit to these kinds of people, you set yourself up for a lifetime of emotional deprivation.
6. You expect disappointment.
Expecting disappointment keeps fulfillment at a distance. Going into situations anticipating disappointment becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
7. You don’t know what you want or cannot define your purpose in life.
This is so common! People usually don’t think of it this way, but not knowing what you want or even trying to figure it out is a way to avoid your purpose. Living with a sense of purpose is a huge need that brings meaning and fulfillment.
8. You shy away from intimacy.
When you avoid close relationships or shy away from deeper connections with people, you miss out on this fundamental contribution to happiness and fulfillment.
9. You cannot enjoy the moment.
Letting go and having fun in the here and now is an important way to experience fulfillment and reduce stress. It is a huge need! Staying in your head, remaining preoccupied or self-conscious robs you of the opportunity to enjoy your now.
9 Ways You May Unwittingly Deprive Yourself of Love and Fulfillment
By Mike Bundrant
excerpt:
http://tinybuddha.com/blog/9-ways-you-unwittingly-deprive-yourself-of-love-and-fulfillment/
1. You don’t express your needs.
Refusing to express your needs virtually guarantees deprivation. Millions of people allow others to ignore, take advantage, and take them for granted because they will not speak up.
2. You are overly focused on the needs of others.
Focusing solely on the needs of others at the expense of your own is actually a disservice to yourself and others. It typically leads to resentment and emotional martyrdom.
3. You feel guilty when you do something for yourself.
Guilt or “selfish” feelings when you meet your own needs is a sign that you don’t believe you deserve to have them met, as if it were wrong.
4. You can’t take compliments.
Not accepting compliments graciously (inside and out) is a way to deflect them, depriving yourself of the need to be appreciated.
5. You are attracted to emotionally unavailable or self-centered people.
A sure way to not to get your needs met is to attract emotionally unavailable or narcissistic people into your life. When you commit to these kinds of people, you set yourself up for a lifetime of emotional deprivation.
6. You expect disappointment.
Expecting disappointment keeps fulfillment at a distance. Going into situations anticipating disappointment becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
7. You don’t know what you want or cannot define your purpose in life.
This is so common! People usually don’t think of it this way, but not knowing what you want or even trying to figure it out is a way to avoid your purpose. Living with a sense of purpose is a huge need that brings meaning and fulfillment.
8. You shy away from intimacy.
When you avoid close relationships or shy away from deeper connections with people, you miss out on this fundamental contribution to happiness and fulfillment.
9. You cannot enjoy the moment.
Letting go and having fun in the here and now is an important way to experience fulfillment and reduce stress. It is a huge need! Staying in your head, remaining preoccupied or self-conscious robs you of the opportunity to enjoy your now.
