So...this person I know, who drives me insane the way she tackles dating has moved on to the next loser. I say this, because EVERY SINGLE man she has dated since separating and getting a divorce has been some of the biggest losers i have ever encountered. Each and every one of them has asked to borrow money...and she gives it right up to them. Granted, she's a nurse and makes decent money, but that doesnt mean she doesnt have bills that need to be coming first and formost!
The most recent guy, who lives in Colorado, asked for money too (tire blow out supposedly), saying that he lost his wallet and so had to cancel all his credit cards and put a hold on his bank account and go get a new drivers license (yeah...right. The boyfriend right before this one, had the exact same story and viola, wallet shows up a few weeks later, but of course my mom shelled out tons of money in the meantime). So anyway, he asked her for money and she swore up and down she wasnt going to send him any money and said he needed to do what he would have done before he met her. Well..couple days later, I'm cleaning out her lunch bag to put leftovers away so they dont go bad and here is a walmart western union receipt. She sent him the money. Big surprise.
When I try to tell her that these men are using her because they are the type to do so when a plus size white woman is involved, she just finds ways to justify them using her or she'll just say "God wants me to sow into their lives"....How about sowing into the lives of some homeless people or abused women living in a shelter or abandoned children in an orphanage rather than "sowing" money into a man just because you think you're interested in him and want to have sex with him. Do something really Christ like and not throwing money out just so you can get laid...hows that for an idea? I just think that any man who was genuinely interested in a woman...asking her for money would be the absolute last thing you'd do if you were trying to establish a relationship.
Heck...men stand her up all the time and then make up totally fake stories as to why they did it, and she'll say it's okay and make excuses for them only for it it happen once again. It is just such a fucking cycle and I'm tired of seeing it and fighting with her and her saying there is no problem!
(yes, the person is my mom and yes, thank god, im moving out in 9 days so i wont have all this drama anymore)
Sorry for the long ass post, but whats your viewpoint on it?
The most recent guy, who lives in Colorado, asked for money too (tire blow out supposedly), saying that he lost his wallet and so had to cancel all his credit cards and put a hold on his bank account and go get a new drivers license (yeah...right. The boyfriend right before this one, had the exact same story and viola, wallet shows up a few weeks later, but of course my mom shelled out tons of money in the meantime). So anyway, he asked her for money and she swore up and down she wasnt going to send him any money and said he needed to do what he would have done before he met her. Well..couple days later, I'm cleaning out her lunch bag to put leftovers away so they dont go bad and here is a walmart western union receipt. She sent him the money. Big surprise.
When I try to tell her that these men are using her because they are the type to do so when a plus size white woman is involved, she just finds ways to justify them using her or she'll just say "God wants me to sow into their lives"....How about sowing into the lives of some homeless people or abused women living in a shelter or abandoned children in an orphanage rather than "sowing" money into a man just because you think you're interested in him and want to have sex with him. Do something really Christ like and not throwing money out just so you can get laid...hows that for an idea? I just think that any man who was genuinely interested in a woman...asking her for money would be the absolute last thing you'd do if you were trying to establish a relationship.
Heck...men stand her up all the time and then make up totally fake stories as to why they did it, and she'll say it's okay and make excuses for them only for it it happen once again. It is just such a fucking cycle and I'm tired of seeing it and fighting with her and her saying there is no problem!
(yes, the person is my mom and yes, thank god, im moving out in 9 days so i wont have all this drama anymore)
Sorry for the long ass post, but whats your viewpoint on it?
