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I just came across this site yesterday and tbh I'm kinda nervous about asking this question because I don't really know what the community is like here, but I've been wondering basically since the day my girlfriend and I got together whether or not I should come out as being an FA to her.
She is by no means small, but not morbidly obese either, which is kinda the perfect size in my mind. She's never had crippling body-image issues, nor is she the kind of person that complains about her weight all the time, in fact in the several years I've known her she's only made a comment about her weight twice. She doesn't go out of her way to hide her size with her clothing. But at the same time I've always gotten the vibe that she feels like her size makes her "subpar". And even though it would be super awkward to come out to her, I've always wondered if that might make her happier and more content with who she is. That's all I really want to accomplish by this: making her happy. I have a good relationship with her, we are very transparent about nearly everything, but I'm not sure if I should be transparent about this. I also kinda worry it might cheapen my attraction to her in her mind, because while her weight is just the cherry on top when it comes to why I love her (I'm not totally obsessed with fatness like some people, my one ex was actually quite thin, I care about a lot of things beyond weight), she might see it otherwise.
So I have a couple of questions:
1. If you came out to your significant other as an FA, how did they take it? If you are the one being admired for your weight, did your significant other come out to you? If so, how did you feel about that?
2. How should I go about coming out to her, if I do at all? Is it more of a "bring it up if it comes up" thing or should I be actively trying to tell her?
3. What's the best way to phrase the whole thing? (obviously just saying "I like fat chicks" probably wouldn't go over too well lol)
She is by no means small, but not morbidly obese either, which is kinda the perfect size in my mind. She's never had crippling body-image issues, nor is she the kind of person that complains about her weight all the time, in fact in the several years I've known her she's only made a comment about her weight twice. She doesn't go out of her way to hide her size with her clothing. But at the same time I've always gotten the vibe that she feels like her size makes her "subpar". And even though it would be super awkward to come out to her, I've always wondered if that might make her happier and more content with who she is. That's all I really want to accomplish by this: making her happy. I have a good relationship with her, we are very transparent about nearly everything, but I'm not sure if I should be transparent about this. I also kinda worry it might cheapen my attraction to her in her mind, because while her weight is just the cherry on top when it comes to why I love her (I'm not totally obsessed with fatness like some people, my one ex was actually quite thin, I care about a lot of things beyond weight), she might see it otherwise.
So I have a couple of questions:
1. If you came out to your significant other as an FA, how did they take it? If you are the one being admired for your weight, did your significant other come out to you? If so, how did you feel about that?
2. How should I go about coming out to her, if I do at all? Is it more of a "bring it up if it comes up" thing or should I be actively trying to tell her?
3. What's the best way to phrase the whole thing? (obviously just saying "I like fat chicks" probably wouldn't go over too well lol)
