Ample Pie
Fattitude Problem
First off, I'm Rebecca. (My username probably gave that away.) I don't mean to be a lurker, but being new anywhere can be a little overwhelming. So please excuse my newb-ness 
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The point of this thread was to ask for some feedback on a dilemma I'm facing at the moment. I have a friend, a new friend as it turns out, who seems like a decent fellow overall. But he made this comment:
"in my experience fat people are totally uninterested in losing weight. That's why they're fat. It's the normally-proportioned women who're obsessive about not having that extra sprout with the additional 3 calories."
On one hand it acknowledges that someone might just choose to be fat--that it's okay to choose to be fat--and I think that's a valid point. But my gut tells me he actually said it in a way to justify the negativity that's heaped on fat people. Also, the phrase "normally proportioned" really irks me. The whole thing kind of bothers me and I'm not sure if it should bother me or if I'm reading too much into it. Or maybe I'm being too sensitive. I wonder, but then I think that it's probably bothering me for a reason. So then I want to give him a piece of my mind, but I don't want to be mean about it; I just want to give him a different perspective. So I don't even know if I should be upset, or if, being upset, I should say anything, nor even what to say if I do.
I guess I'm asking for a little perspective myself, before I address it with him and risk blowing it way out of proportion. If that makes sense.
Thank you.
.The point of this thread was to ask for some feedback on a dilemma I'm facing at the moment. I have a friend, a new friend as it turns out, who seems like a decent fellow overall. But he made this comment:
"in my experience fat people are totally uninterested in losing weight. That's why they're fat. It's the normally-proportioned women who're obsessive about not having that extra sprout with the additional 3 calories."
On one hand it acknowledges that someone might just choose to be fat--that it's okay to choose to be fat--and I think that's a valid point. But my gut tells me he actually said it in a way to justify the negativity that's heaped on fat people. Also, the phrase "normally proportioned" really irks me. The whole thing kind of bothers me and I'm not sure if it should bother me or if I'm reading too much into it. Or maybe I'm being too sensitive. I wonder, but then I think that it's probably bothering me for a reason. So then I want to give him a piece of my mind, but I don't want to be mean about it; I just want to give him a different perspective. So I don't even know if I should be upset, or if, being upset, I should say anything, nor even what to say if I do.
I guess I'm asking for a little perspective myself, before I address it with him and risk blowing it way out of proportion. If that makes sense.
Thank you.
