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saucywench
I was wondering if any of you would like to share any crushes you may have had on teachers or professors...and, if so, why?
As I just mentioned in the confessions thread, I have recently been in contact with a professor from way back. He remains to this day one of my favorite people I have encountered in my life.
I had already had my intro to philosophy class as a freshman when he arrived as the new chair. He had such a magnetic persona, and was such a great teacher, that I wound up taking a lot of advanced philosophy courses in part because of him. He was so personable with all of the students and, since he is still active there (he was instrumental in developing an honors college at the university some years later, and remains there in some capacity), I am sure the number of his admirers (both male and female) is legion.
It got me to thinking about such relationships, and why the attraction is so strong. In part, particularly for me, I think it was that he was one of the first people who recognized my level of intelligence, so he validated me in many ways. There were a couple of other male professors, then and later, with whom I felt that, and even a couple of female English teachers, in high school and college, whom I admired greatly, but I didn't feel that...something extra...that I felt for him. I think a lot of it was that I admired the way he lived his life, the regard he held for everyone he encountered, his worldview in general...I just always felt more 'engaged' when I was in his presence. And I am certain that a lot of people have felt that way about him.
I have always found him attractive in a physical sense, but maybe I have always been attracted to the 'professorly' look. I'm just trying to sort out all of the things about him I feel drawn to, and why that is so. I think, ultimately, and ideally, I have always desired a lasting relationship with a man who embodied the traits that he possesses and, with rare exception, I have fallen short in attaining that.
Maybe this is too deep a subject to bring to the boards, but I was just curious if any of you had similar experiences--if you have, was the attraction strictly intellectual, strictly physical, or a combination of both?
I know some of you have some stories, because I recall seeing them here. If a thread already exists on this topic, I haven't taken the time to look for it.
As I just mentioned in the confessions thread, I have recently been in contact with a professor from way back. He remains to this day one of my favorite people I have encountered in my life.
I had already had my intro to philosophy class as a freshman when he arrived as the new chair. He had such a magnetic persona, and was such a great teacher, that I wound up taking a lot of advanced philosophy courses in part because of him. He was so personable with all of the students and, since he is still active there (he was instrumental in developing an honors college at the university some years later, and remains there in some capacity), I am sure the number of his admirers (both male and female) is legion.
It got me to thinking about such relationships, and why the attraction is so strong. In part, particularly for me, I think it was that he was one of the first people who recognized my level of intelligence, so he validated me in many ways. There were a couple of other male professors, then and later, with whom I felt that, and even a couple of female English teachers, in high school and college, whom I admired greatly, but I didn't feel that...something extra...that I felt for him. I think a lot of it was that I admired the way he lived his life, the regard he held for everyone he encountered, his worldview in general...I just always felt more 'engaged' when I was in his presence. And I am certain that a lot of people have felt that way about him.
I have always found him attractive in a physical sense, but maybe I have always been attracted to the 'professorly' look. I'm just trying to sort out all of the things about him I feel drawn to, and why that is so. I think, ultimately, and ideally, I have always desired a lasting relationship with a man who embodied the traits that he possesses and, with rare exception, I have fallen short in attaining that.
Maybe this is too deep a subject to bring to the boards, but I was just curious if any of you had similar experiences--if you have, was the attraction strictly intellectual, strictly physical, or a combination of both?
I know some of you have some stories, because I recall seeing them here. If a thread already exists on this topic, I haven't taken the time to look for it.
