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Dave0062007
I haven't posted here in a long, long time. So long in fact, that I've forgotten my old username and password.
I got married to a beautiful and wonderful girl back in November 2005. We had dated since we were juniors in high school (back in 2001). Yes, you're math is right... we're young. We're both about to turn 23. High school sweethearts and we dated for 4 1/2 years.
While we dated I gradually began accepting my taste in really big women. My wife had always struggled with her weight but this information this slowly changed her dieting and exercising habits. She's 5'3 and I watched her gain about 40lbs during the 4 years we dated. I loved it. She didn't seem to mind... she was glad I loved her expanding figure.
Some husbands complain that marriage causes their wife to gain weight, but I seem to be having the opposite problem. My wife's weight edged a little higher during the first months of marriage, but I think something in her brain snapped, because she's been dieting on and off (more on) since. She's down 5lbs from when we got married and her goal is 15lbs more. I know this from sneaking a peak at her dieting journal... I know, I know, believe me, I truly regret it.
Anyway, her journal over the past months is interesting. She has a REALLY tough time losing and a really easy time gaining. Example: she dieted/exercised from Aug-Nov and lost only 10lbs. The holidays led to a December break in dieting and she gained all 10lbs back in 4 weeks. Now she's on her sixth week of dieting again and has only lost 5lbs with no end in sight. I know she's getting really frustrated and her frustration is compounded with the knowledge that I would love more--not less--of her.
I have really mixed feelings. On the one hand, I want her to be happy. On the other hand... my preference (I've realized and accepted over the past few years) would be for her to put on about 75-100 more pounds. I doubt that will ever happen, but that's me being honest. She's beautiful now, of course.
I see so many of you confident women on this board and I wonder, "at what point did they become ok with their weight?" Have you always been ok with your weight? Is it a daily choice? Was it a process? Just part of growing older and maturing? Have you gone through phases of embracing and phases of rejecting?
She's always struggled with her weight and I thought she was accepting it until about 6 months into our marriage when the twinkies stopped and Weight Watchers started. I'd love for my wife to accept herself bigger. I suppose she does to some extent, because her goal is not to lose all her weight and get back to where she was when we first started dating. But I'm just growing really tired of watching her diet and exercise... lol, this isn't the girl I married!
Here's us in summer 2002 and us again in Dec 2006. Don't ask me how I snagged such a hottie! I still haven't figure that one out.
I got married to a beautiful and wonderful girl back in November 2005. We had dated since we were juniors in high school (back in 2001). Yes, you're math is right... we're young. We're both about to turn 23. High school sweethearts and we dated for 4 1/2 years.
While we dated I gradually began accepting my taste in really big women. My wife had always struggled with her weight but this information this slowly changed her dieting and exercising habits. She's 5'3 and I watched her gain about 40lbs during the 4 years we dated. I loved it. She didn't seem to mind... she was glad I loved her expanding figure.
Some husbands complain that marriage causes their wife to gain weight, but I seem to be having the opposite problem. My wife's weight edged a little higher during the first months of marriage, but I think something in her brain snapped, because she's been dieting on and off (more on) since. She's down 5lbs from when we got married and her goal is 15lbs more. I know this from sneaking a peak at her dieting journal... I know, I know, believe me, I truly regret it.
Anyway, her journal over the past months is interesting. She has a REALLY tough time losing and a really easy time gaining. Example: she dieted/exercised from Aug-Nov and lost only 10lbs. The holidays led to a December break in dieting and she gained all 10lbs back in 4 weeks. Now she's on her sixth week of dieting again and has only lost 5lbs with no end in sight. I know she's getting really frustrated and her frustration is compounded with the knowledge that I would love more--not less--of her.
I have really mixed feelings. On the one hand, I want her to be happy. On the other hand... my preference (I've realized and accepted over the past few years) would be for her to put on about 75-100 more pounds. I doubt that will ever happen, but that's me being honest. She's beautiful now, of course.
I see so many of you confident women on this board and I wonder, "at what point did they become ok with their weight?" Have you always been ok with your weight? Is it a daily choice? Was it a process? Just part of growing older and maturing? Have you gone through phases of embracing and phases of rejecting?
She's always struggled with her weight and I thought she was accepting it until about 6 months into our marriage when the twinkies stopped and Weight Watchers started. I'd love for my wife to accept herself bigger. I suppose she does to some extent, because her goal is not to lose all her weight and get back to where she was when we first started dating. But I'm just growing really tired of watching her diet and exercise... lol, this isn't the girl I married!
Here's us in summer 2002 and us again in Dec 2006. Don't ask me how I snagged such a hottie! I still haven't figure that one out.
