Ample Pie
Fattitude Problem
I visit another board from time to time (it's about music) and someone made a thread asking for people to list the top 10 albums that changed their lives. It was a pretty good thread and it got me thinking about other top 10's. I started making a list of the top 10 moments that changed my life so far. It seems to me, though, that a top 5 might be a more reasonable request.
My top 5:
1: My mom telling me my dad was moving out and they were divorcing. I was 7 and even at that age, I knew it was good news.
2: HiroYuki, a kid in my third grade class, taught me a lesson about generosity and ego and decency.
3: In the 5th grade, I had a teacher who made us keep a journal. He was the first to ever set an example for us that writing could be fun or worthwhile. He's still the best teacher I ever had. I wanted so much to make him proud; I've never worked so hard for a teacher in my life. Mid-way through the school year, they implemented a Student of the Month program and this teacher made me the first one. No one had ever believed in me like that. No one had ever noticed that I was more than just 'the weird fat girl.'
4: An ex of mine helped me to understand some big concepts. He taught me what it means to not be able to love someone until you love yourself. And he taught me that as great and powerful and wonderful as love is, it isn't enough. There has to be more. That relationship was the most devastating I ever had but it was also the most fortifying.
5: I was 19 and at the mall where I worked with my best friend. He called me a liar. He said, "It's always so hard to know where I stand with you because you constantly mislead, lie, and obfuscate." That's when I realized that my defense mechanism was lying and that I was sick of it. I was sick of lying and of needing a defense. I've had a policy of honesty ever since.
My top 5:
1: My mom telling me my dad was moving out and they were divorcing. I was 7 and even at that age, I knew it was good news.
2: HiroYuki, a kid in my third grade class, taught me a lesson about generosity and ego and decency.
3: In the 5th grade, I had a teacher who made us keep a journal. He was the first to ever set an example for us that writing could be fun or worthwhile. He's still the best teacher I ever had. I wanted so much to make him proud; I've never worked so hard for a teacher in my life. Mid-way through the school year, they implemented a Student of the Month program and this teacher made me the first one. No one had ever believed in me like that. No one had ever noticed that I was more than just 'the weird fat girl.'
4: An ex of mine helped me to understand some big concepts. He taught me what it means to not be able to love someone until you love yourself. And he taught me that as great and powerful and wonderful as love is, it isn't enough. There has to be more. That relationship was the most devastating I ever had but it was also the most fortifying.
5: I was 19 and at the mall where I worked with my best friend. He called me a liar. He said, "It's always so hard to know where I stand with you because you constantly mislead, lie, and obfuscate." That's when I realized that my defense mechanism was lying and that I was sick of it. I was sick of lying and of needing a defense. I've had a policy of honesty ever since.
