(bkgd: I'm gay, and like BIG guys.)
My situation: I dated and broke up with a rather large guy, about 360, and have since started dating someone new. He trumps my ex in many arenas, but is significantly smaller, about 230. This hadn't presented a problem for me until last night, the first night we attempted to have sex. ::cough cough:: I had some...trouble..."performing," and I can blame exhaustion all I want (it was very late), but I know the underlying cause is more significant: there's not enough fat! :-(
Everything else about our relationship is great, and I want to make it work. Anyone else have this problem? I'm having trouble switching gears from a relationship that for the most part consisted solely of comfortable (fat) sex to a more fulfilling relationship with someone who is physically outside of my typical acceptable-size criterion.
(To further complicate matters, new guy considers himself a gainer, but is currently inactive--and has lost 15 lbs since we met. He gets my brand of "dirty talk" though, which is a plus.)
My situation: I dated and broke up with a rather large guy, about 360, and have since started dating someone new. He trumps my ex in many arenas, but is significantly smaller, about 230. This hadn't presented a problem for me until last night, the first night we attempted to have sex. ::cough cough:: I had some...trouble..."performing," and I can blame exhaustion all I want (it was very late), but I know the underlying cause is more significant: there's not enough fat! :-(
Everything else about our relationship is great, and I want to make it work. Anyone else have this problem? I'm having trouble switching gears from a relationship that for the most part consisted solely of comfortable (fat) sex to a more fulfilling relationship with someone who is physically outside of my typical acceptable-size criterion.
(To further complicate matters, new guy considers himself a gainer, but is currently inactive--and has lost 15 lbs since we met. He gets my brand of "dirty talk" though, which is a plus.)
