I'm beginning to think that one common thing that we all share, fat people and FA's alike is that when it comes to fatness, we may often feel as though there is always something missing.
If you are fat, do you wonder what you would gain by being thin? Do you ask yourself if you are denying yourself something vital by being fat? If you've been thin and became fat, do you mourn your former self? If you have always been fat, do you long for a level acceptance and overall ease you think you'd get if you were thin? Do you identify as a fat person before all else, seeing all you are thru a fat lens or do you see your primary self as someone other than a fat person? Do you think your fat is irrelevant to who you are as a person; do you just choose to not see thru that lens no matter what? If you want to gain, do you feel that you are missing something no matter what size you are? If you loose weight (either for health or for vanity or both), do you ever feel guilty for rejecting your fatter self? Do you feel like a traitor to the cause (assuming you believe in the SA cause)? Is this an affirmation of the negative things society at large thinks about fat people? If you always identified as a fat person, then just who do you become after significant weight loss?
If you are an FA, do you identify yourself by the fat you love? Do you feel as tho your partner's fat is so much a part of who you are that it feel's like your own? Do you feel like part of yourself dies when your partners decides to reject/loose their fat? If so, are you able to express that loss in a way that doesn't make you feel like you are the worst person in the world? If you want your partner to gain can you express that in a way that doesn't make you feel like the worst person in the world? Do you ever feel like you have to choose between your fat identity and your partner's fat identity? Do you feel like you are responsible for what they think they are missing? ARE they missing something? Are YOU? Do you feel awful for wanting to hold onto it? Do you stay or do you go?
In all cases, are we all torn between the people we think we should be and the people we actually are? Are we ever truly comfortable with fat whether we wear it or not? Truly? Is it really and truly possible to be fat/love fat and be completely satisfied? Is it unrealistic to expect satisfaction?
ARE we missing something?
Are all these questions irrelevant? Am I overthinking all this stuff? Asking too many questions at once? Do any of these questions even make sense? Is this even stuff we want to talk about or has it all been talked about to death?
What do you think?
If you are fat, do you wonder what you would gain by being thin? Do you ask yourself if you are denying yourself something vital by being fat? If you've been thin and became fat, do you mourn your former self? If you have always been fat, do you long for a level acceptance and overall ease you think you'd get if you were thin? Do you identify as a fat person before all else, seeing all you are thru a fat lens or do you see your primary self as someone other than a fat person? Do you think your fat is irrelevant to who you are as a person; do you just choose to not see thru that lens no matter what? If you want to gain, do you feel that you are missing something no matter what size you are? If you loose weight (either for health or for vanity or both), do you ever feel guilty for rejecting your fatter self? Do you feel like a traitor to the cause (assuming you believe in the SA cause)? Is this an affirmation of the negative things society at large thinks about fat people? If you always identified as a fat person, then just who do you become after significant weight loss?
If you are an FA, do you identify yourself by the fat you love? Do you feel as tho your partner's fat is so much a part of who you are that it feel's like your own? Do you feel like part of yourself dies when your partners decides to reject/loose their fat? If so, are you able to express that loss in a way that doesn't make you feel like you are the worst person in the world? If you want your partner to gain can you express that in a way that doesn't make you feel like the worst person in the world? Do you ever feel like you have to choose between your fat identity and your partner's fat identity? Do you feel like you are responsible for what they think they are missing? ARE they missing something? Are YOU? Do you feel awful for wanting to hold onto it? Do you stay or do you go?
In all cases, are we all torn between the people we think we should be and the people we actually are? Are we ever truly comfortable with fat whether we wear it or not? Truly? Is it really and truly possible to be fat/love fat and be completely satisfied? Is it unrealistic to expect satisfaction?
ARE we missing something?
Are all these questions irrelevant? Am I overthinking all this stuff? Asking too many questions at once? Do any of these questions even make sense? Is this even stuff we want to talk about or has it all been talked about to death?
What do you think?
