This event happened way back in September. The first week of September, I brought my girlfriend to the apartment I share with my two roommates. [The names have been replaced] My roommate Eric and his girlfriend ignored my girlfriend and my other roommate David and his girlfriend at least acknowledged her existence, but for the most part my girlfriend talked to my sister, my best friend, Evan [previously mentioned in the Miami Ink article], and I. My girlfriend has never held much regard for my roommates since that night, and I do not blame her. My roommates’ behavior, two weeks later, appalled me. This event is the source of this article.
On Eric’s birthday, Eric and David decided to drink and watch television. Other common friends would arrive later. The show of choice was the season opener of The Biggest Loser. My roommates were mean spirited and verbally abusive to almost everyone who appeared in the show. They made comments the usual mean spirited comments; I am sure we do not need to hear them over and over again. Everyone in the room except my roommates could see how upsetting it was for me to hear my two roommates fat-bashing others. They were the only two that made any comments. I was cringing with every comment they made, but it was the last comment of the night that pushed me over the edge.
David said, about the woman who was about to be voted off first dress size, “26-28!!!, how do you even like yourself. You lazy piece ____. Quit eating donuts and do some sit-ups.” I snapped and responded harshly and to him. I am not even sure of my exact words, but I asked him is that his opinion of everyone that wears that size dress or larger. He said yes. I said that is the same dress size as my girlfriend and stormed off.
I never told my girlfriend of this episode with my roommates. Two days later David apologized to me, Eric has yet to and I do not expect him to. David has even made an effort to get to my girlfriend better and has not bashed anyone the way he used to. An example of this is in the case of Sean Taylor. Eric said Sean Taylor was a ‘pussy’ for being in coma from a shot to the leg. The old David would have agreed, but a changed David said “He lost a ton of blood, you’d probably already be dead.” I wonder what Eric feels since Sean Taylor died the next morning.
Guess my two lessons are even though they were my friends for two years, you never know anybody well enough. The second lesson is how an event can change someone, but can leave the old mantra some people never change.
On Eric’s birthday, Eric and David decided to drink and watch television. Other common friends would arrive later. The show of choice was the season opener of The Biggest Loser. My roommates were mean spirited and verbally abusive to almost everyone who appeared in the show. They made comments the usual mean spirited comments; I am sure we do not need to hear them over and over again. Everyone in the room except my roommates could see how upsetting it was for me to hear my two roommates fat-bashing others. They were the only two that made any comments. I was cringing with every comment they made, but it was the last comment of the night that pushed me over the edge.
David said, about the woman who was about to be voted off first dress size, “26-28!!!, how do you even like yourself. You lazy piece ____. Quit eating donuts and do some sit-ups.” I snapped and responded harshly and to him. I am not even sure of my exact words, but I asked him is that his opinion of everyone that wears that size dress or larger. He said yes. I said that is the same dress size as my girlfriend and stormed off.
I never told my girlfriend of this episode with my roommates. Two days later David apologized to me, Eric has yet to and I do not expect him to. David has even made an effort to get to my girlfriend better and has not bashed anyone the way he used to. An example of this is in the case of Sean Taylor. Eric said Sean Taylor was a ‘pussy’ for being in coma from a shot to the leg. The old David would have agreed, but a changed David said “He lost a ton of blood, you’d probably already be dead.” I wonder what Eric feels since Sean Taylor died the next morning.
Guess my two lessons are even though they were my friends for two years, you never know anybody well enough. The second lesson is how an event can change someone, but can leave the old mantra some people never change.
