superodalisque
Well-Known Member
everybody knows what physical abuse looks like. the obvious black eyes and bruises are visual signs anybody can follow. emotional abuse can be much trickier especially if somebody is using your fat against you in the process. i'm not sure if it really is any different for fat people but i do feel that abusers might look at fat people as easy targets. after all many of us are used to receiving some kind of abuse on a societal level. we tend to accept that society does not like our body and never will. does that give an abuser an inroad somehow? i don't know if that makes us more susceptible to emotional abuse by someone close to us or not. what do you think?
i found this interesting piece http://www.abusersanon.com/emotional-abusers/how-does-an-emotional-abuser-act which is what got me thinking about the issue as it relates to being fat:
its my understanding that they like to play the victim . they like to blame, call names scare and degrade.
they turn people against you.
they laugh at you when you cry. they are loved by others, he is a real con man. he lies.
He degrades.
Emotional abuse can be really subtle and very crafty. Some things they might do:
Isolate you from family/friends and/or put them down so youll like them less
Be very controlling
Make you feel guilty for doing certain things that they dont like
Makes you feel obligated to have sex
Undermines your self-esteem; ridicules you; laughs at your ideas; criticizes you (your choices, your appearance, your ideas, etc.)
Might control your finances and/or steal money from you
Might be very jealous; makes you feel like you have to account for where you were and who you were with
Blames you for most/all things wrong with the relationship
If you think youre being abused, you probably are.
i found this interesting piece http://www.abusersanon.com/emotional-abusers/how-does-an-emotional-abuser-act which is what got me thinking about the issue as it relates to being fat:
its my understanding that they like to play the victim . they like to blame, call names scare and degrade.
they turn people against you.
they laugh at you when you cry. they are loved by others, he is a real con man. he lies.
He degrades.
Emotional abuse can be really subtle and very crafty. Some things they might do:
Isolate you from family/friends and/or put them down so youll like them less
Be very controlling
Make you feel guilty for doing certain things that they dont like
Makes you feel obligated to have sex
Undermines your self-esteem; ridicules you; laughs at your ideas; criticizes you (your choices, your appearance, your ideas, etc.)
Might control your finances and/or steal money from you
Might be very jealous; makes you feel like you have to account for where you were and who you were with
Blames you for most/all things wrong with the relationship
If you think youre being abused, you probably are.
