LogansMommy
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So i have a delliema, My brother is in need of a place and my mom said he can visit her for 15 days but then has to move on in with some one else because he isnt on her lease and any thing after 15 days in a 45 day period is considerd a move in on her lease. But with out even asking my huisband and i if its alright my mom just said oh on the first hes going to come up and stay with you all for a while . But yeah um he isnt on our lease either. Shes so worried about down there and her getting kicked out but she failed to see that we have a lease her as well and the only people on our lease is my self my husband and our son.
Were a new married couple (been together for 3 years and married for just under 2 years) and My husband just got a good job after being off half the year last year because of surgery. So we just got up on our feet and are barley manageing our selfs, How could my mom just assume and tell him he can stay here? We dont know what to do. Jobs are hard to come by here and my brother doesnt want to go to an temp service because he doesnt have his GED and they always release him from his job after the 60 or 90 days is up because no one will hire him once his trial is up.
Ive tried every thing i can do to help my brother and i have candy coated that perhaps she should get him on her lease because she lives a hour away from us and shes handicapped so it would be nice he could stay wwith here till he got up on his feet and nothing she didnt bite i dont know how to say it any other way with out hurting my moms feelings. But my husband can just take care of our selfs and our son we cant take care of my brother he doesnt have any thing we would have to pay for every thing his food,drinks and cigs(because my mom does) i know my brother got the way he is because he gave his heart to a woman that we told him was um bad for his health she was crazy and he didnt beleive us he had to see it on his own. In which he finally did but now every ones left to pick up the peices......
Then we said that he could stay where he was till that month was up and so he can save money and get a 1 br apartment down the street from us and my husbnd would drive him to work just until he gets up on his feet so hes close if he needs a ride btu he isnt staying with us. We only have a 2 br apartment and thats one bed room for us and the other bed room is for our son.
Its quite stressful, Because my brother is a really good worker but its the getting him to go get a job. or for him to get it out his mind that just because he wants to work at one place it doesnt mean they are going to hire him thats another one of his faults. He gets it in his head one place is going to hire him and he will quit looking for any other job. I love my family but the family i have built (my self my husband and our child) comes first but how do i get that across with out my mom being mad at me?
Any advice?
Were a new married couple (been together for 3 years and married for just under 2 years) and My husband just got a good job after being off half the year last year because of surgery. So we just got up on our feet and are barley manageing our selfs, How could my mom just assume and tell him he can stay here? We dont know what to do. Jobs are hard to come by here and my brother doesnt want to go to an temp service because he doesnt have his GED and they always release him from his job after the 60 or 90 days is up because no one will hire him once his trial is up.
Ive tried every thing i can do to help my brother and i have candy coated that perhaps she should get him on her lease because she lives a hour away from us and shes handicapped so it would be nice he could stay wwith here till he got up on his feet and nothing she didnt bite i dont know how to say it any other way with out hurting my moms feelings. But my husband can just take care of our selfs and our son we cant take care of my brother he doesnt have any thing we would have to pay for every thing his food,drinks and cigs(because my mom does) i know my brother got the way he is because he gave his heart to a woman that we told him was um bad for his health she was crazy and he didnt beleive us he had to see it on his own. In which he finally did but now every ones left to pick up the peices......
Then we said that he could stay where he was till that month was up and so he can save money and get a 1 br apartment down the street from us and my husbnd would drive him to work just until he gets up on his feet so hes close if he needs a ride btu he isnt staying with us. We only have a 2 br apartment and thats one bed room for us and the other bed room is for our son.
Its quite stressful, Because my brother is a really good worker but its the getting him to go get a job. or for him to get it out his mind that just because he wants to work at one place it doesnt mean they are going to hire him thats another one of his faults. He gets it in his head one place is going to hire him and he will quit looking for any other job. I love my family but the family i have built (my self my husband and our child) comes first but how do i get that across with out my mom being mad at me?
Any advice?
