I am sure most FAs find non-traditional erogenous zones like double chins, soft arms, belly, back fat, thighs, calves, puffy feet and even supposed flaws like stretchmarks and cellulite extremely appealing.
However, most of my past partners are just not interested in any attention on their fat parts at all or anything that might remind them of their fat. I met them outside the size acceptance community and they do struggle with their size, but I am sure that the lack of confidence is not the only issue. I imagine that not every fat person will enjoy belly rubs and the like, or even get turned on by it.
While it is difficult to ignore the soft, tempting lushness right in front of you during sex, I am usually able to not make it my focus and keep my thoughts to myself if it makes my partner uncomfortable. A couple of exes have told me that belly rubs did absolutely nothing for them, but they tolerated it anyway and that made me feel selfish and sad. If I had known that, I would probably have tried harder to suppress my desires.
BBWs/BHMs, how do you really feel about your partner paying attention to your fat, both in and out of bed?
FAs, how do you cope if your BBW/BHM does not understand your preference/fetish or enjoy them on the same level (eg. partner might like belly rubs casually but would rather you ignore her tummy completely in bed)?
However, most of my past partners are just not interested in any attention on their fat parts at all or anything that might remind them of their fat. I met them outside the size acceptance community and they do struggle with their size, but I am sure that the lack of confidence is not the only issue. I imagine that not every fat person will enjoy belly rubs and the like, or even get turned on by it.
While it is difficult to ignore the soft, tempting lushness right in front of you during sex, I am usually able to not make it my focus and keep my thoughts to myself if it makes my partner uncomfortable. A couple of exes have told me that belly rubs did absolutely nothing for them, but they tolerated it anyway and that made me feel selfish and sad. If I had known that, I would probably have tried harder to suppress my desires.
BBWs/BHMs, how do you really feel about your partner paying attention to your fat, both in and out of bed?
FAs, how do you cope if your BBW/BHM does not understand your preference/fetish or enjoy them on the same level (eg. partner might like belly rubs casually but would rather you ignore her tummy completely in bed)?
