This past couple of weeks I have been on edge about the way people perceive fat folks. A friend of mine has been losing some weight of late and I totally support her in that effort. But people are constantly commenting on her weight loss and how good she looks and its the way people respond to her that has got me teeth on edge. Asking her how she does it, she must feel so much better, she seems so much happier.. etc. She is just as beautiful now as she was months ago, her personality hasn't changed, she is still just as bubbly and funny, yet suddenly has value cause shes lost a bit of weight! And comments from the hubby about the women he finds attractive like Angelina, Catherine Zeta Jones, Gina Davis etc. I know he loves me and we have been married 23 years and I have been thinner and this weight and I know he loves me for me. But its a comparison nonetheless that I as a fat woman have been dealing with my entire life! As well we have a new gal working with us that is very thin and a quirky dresser and one of my staff was telling me how they overheard a few of the gals laughing at her at our retreat when she was off for a walk by herself and they were walking together at how silly she looks and such. Why are people so insensitive to others? I just don't get why people cannot think before they open their mouths about the impact of what they are saying can do to others!
Why is it that our value as human beings is wrapped up in having a certain image? I like who I am and am frankly getting impatient with people who cannot see the whole package when they look at a person and judge based on societies screwed values. Tired of people telling me that if I lost some weight people would see how beautiful I am inside and out like they do. Excuse me WTF? If you can see it as you say, then why can't others see it? And if they can't why do I have to conform to get their acceptance? I address it when said directly to me, but when its other peoples stuff its none of my business, yet it sets my teeth on edge. Just needed to get this off my chest and see if anyone else gets un nerved byt this crap too?
Ruth
Why is it that our value as human beings is wrapped up in having a certain image? I like who I am and am frankly getting impatient with people who cannot see the whole package when they look at a person and judge based on societies screwed values. Tired of people telling me that if I lost some weight people would see how beautiful I am inside and out like they do. Excuse me WTF? If you can see it as you say, then why can't others see it? And if they can't why do I have to conform to get their acceptance? I address it when said directly to me, but when its other peoples stuff its none of my business, yet it sets my teeth on edge. Just needed to get this off my chest and see if anyone else gets un nerved byt this crap too?
Ruth
