Shao
Member
Hello everyone.
I have actually been a Dimensions lurker for between seven to eight years, favouring the Weight Room stories. I struggle with my shyness towards being an FA and have done so for quite some time, but have now decided to make my first step into the community forums a bold one by seeking advice.
I am in a relationship with a lovely girl who has Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. She is about 5'6" in height and around the 250 lbs mark (Not sure of her weight but her pant sizes are between 16 and 18). She is overweight for her height and usually does not mind it, but she has frequent doctor check-ups and is always upset around those times because her doctor tells her that her weight contributes to her condition including irregular periods (she had her period for the sixth or seventh time this year so far) and lectures her because she has gained weight since we started dating almost 10 months ago.
She is a food lover and when we are together, she usually eats quite a lot of snacks and other food (she comes from a household where snacks and such are seldom available) and is in heaven when we eat together. Sometimes she'll admit she's gaining weight and be nonchalant about it or other times she will say so just to turn me on. Other times, however, she tells me her weight is very dangerous to her (according to her doctor) and that she needs to lose weight, but she doesn't often have time to exercise regularly (She's busy with nursing school and trying to maintain a dysfunctional household as the middle-child).
Knowing this, I still eat lots of foods she loves with her even though I know that isn't the healthiest choice especially with her PCOS. Also, the thought of her losing weight as a result of exercise sends a very chilling feeling through my body - this is something I have struggled with a very long time and I hate myself for it because it is a very dangerous insecurity and it worries me that I get so bothered by the thought of her weight-loss.
I know the right thing to do is to encourage her to be more active and eat healthier when we see each other, but I also love when we're on the couch with snacks and I hate the idea of her losing weight.
I am hoping for a fresh perspective on the matter and hopefully someone to shed some understanding towards my internal conflict as well as give an FA some advice on how to deal with a condition (PCOS) that makes weight gain dangerous.
Thank you for your time.
I have actually been a Dimensions lurker for between seven to eight years, favouring the Weight Room stories. I struggle with my shyness towards being an FA and have done so for quite some time, but have now decided to make my first step into the community forums a bold one by seeking advice.
I am in a relationship with a lovely girl who has Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. She is about 5'6" in height and around the 250 lbs mark (Not sure of her weight but her pant sizes are between 16 and 18). She is overweight for her height and usually does not mind it, but she has frequent doctor check-ups and is always upset around those times because her doctor tells her that her weight contributes to her condition including irregular periods (she had her period for the sixth or seventh time this year so far) and lectures her because she has gained weight since we started dating almost 10 months ago.
She is a food lover and when we are together, she usually eats quite a lot of snacks and other food (she comes from a household where snacks and such are seldom available) and is in heaven when we eat together. Sometimes she'll admit she's gaining weight and be nonchalant about it or other times she will say so just to turn me on. Other times, however, she tells me her weight is very dangerous to her (according to her doctor) and that she needs to lose weight, but she doesn't often have time to exercise regularly (She's busy with nursing school and trying to maintain a dysfunctional household as the middle-child).
Knowing this, I still eat lots of foods she loves with her even though I know that isn't the healthiest choice especially with her PCOS. Also, the thought of her losing weight as a result of exercise sends a very chilling feeling through my body - this is something I have struggled with a very long time and I hate myself for it because it is a very dangerous insecurity and it worries me that I get so bothered by the thought of her weight-loss.
I know the right thing to do is to encourage her to be more active and eat healthier when we see each other, but I also love when we're on the couch with snacks and I hate the idea of her losing weight.
I am hoping for a fresh perspective on the matter and hopefully someone to shed some understanding towards my internal conflict as well as give an FA some advice on how to deal with a condition (PCOS) that makes weight gain dangerous.
Thank you for your time.
