This is my first thread so be good to me. Hopefully this isn't a silly question, but please bear with me :doh:....As long as I can remember I've had the following experience a lot, and I'm wondering is it my fat, or my persona. Ok here goes....I'm in a public or private place, I encounter men especially black men (I'm black and hispanic), and they look at me as if I've insulted them or something, and they act like I'm not there. I consider myself to be very attractive, I'm relatively tall, always nicely dressed, smart personality, and I'm a SSBBW. Don't get me wrong, I've had two serious relationships and both men were black, but for the most part, I get the cold shoulder. However, non black men have no problem approaching me. Is it me...or is it them? I know this seems like a strange question, but I would love to get feedback. Thanks.